How do I make friends living in a new city?

Question

Hello, I'm a 25-year-old male living in L.A., going to college.

It's not actually not a new city -- I was born and raised here. But I just got out the navy a couple years ago after being stationed in Japan. And all of my friends from childhood have moved to other cities, and some I've simply lost contact with. So basically it's like living in a new city since I know no one. I'm a nice guy and just want to meet some nice people. How can I meet new friends, including girls? Get a job? Are there clubs or functions to join? Gyms? Social clubs? I can't go to a nightclub because you can't just go to a nightclub all by yourself. It's like I have to start all over again.

Any and all help would be appreciated.

Answer 1

ur instant messaging is blocked, so i can't type all this at once. I have speech too, you should try talking to someone that sits next to you in there. Then if you are able to make a couple of friends, then they will be able to help you out more. Look in the yellow pages, and pick somewhere and ask them for a job. Try to talk to people in your classes and make small talk with them, then you'll be able to have even more opportunities.

Answer 2

i reckon you should hire a hall or something like that and advertise an open party. Then you will get to know a few people, get a few numbers then take it from their

Answer 3

I have moved around my whole life. It sucks to start over. Shyness= fear. Bite the bullet, be brave, practice makes perfect, start talking to people. You're already in school thats a GREAT place to talk to people.I also recommend going to events that are of interest to you. Most major cities have a free weekly paper that lists events like community events, book clubs, support groups, gallery receptions etc. I also enjoy going to meetup.com events. There you can find different meetings of interest to attend. I really enjoy these because many of the people who attend are attending for the first time as well. You in college so there are numerous clubs and event to attend. Ask you student government of what is availble. Sign up for a dance class, there is always a shortage of men in those. all these women with no partners. Learning to dance will increase attractiveness to 98% of women. If all else fails find a bar in walking distance. =)

Answer 4

Join a bowling team,church socials,rollerskating or other events.

Answer 5

Try finding clubs or something around you.  Join travel websites like couchsurfing.com ...they usually have city get togethers.  What about signing up and taking a class?

Answer 6

I don't know if you even noticed it but you gave the answers to your question yourself: "How can I meet new friends, including girls? Get a job? Are there clubs or functions to join? Gyms? Social clubs?" If you feel it won't work for you to go alone to a night club all you have to do is make a first friend around there. Try to overcome shyness when trying to meet new people, all you have to do is be yourself and act calmly and everything will be done your way.

Answer 7

have you tried going through your church? I know it sounds hokey but it's better than pickin someone up in a bar!!!