How do I make him know im serious about engagement?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. I have a 15 month old daughter from a previous relationship that left me as a single mom before I even had her. mark and I met while i was pregnant and because great friends. he asked me out when she was just 8 weeks old, and its been non stop fireworks ever since. We ahve talked many many times about out mutual desire to get married, and spend our lives together. He already considers himself my daughters father, as she knows no one else to fit this role. We arent really financially set to be MARRIED yet, per se. We are both 25, though he still has 3 semesters of schooling left (he left early, and then decided to go back once we got together). However, I really would love to have that symbol of commitment between the two of us. If he is as serious as he says, and as I believe he is, than i feel like engagement is the appopriate next step. Also, I have a ring picked out, and its a moissanite (much much less than a diamond, nearly as hard, more sparkle, no fear of being a conflict jewel) that is within his budget ($900!!) How do I really let him know that im very serious about being engaged? I dont expect for a wedding until hes done with school, so ill time it out for 2 years.

Answer 1

Propose to him. Get him a ring, get down on one knee, and propose.

Answer 2

If you two are going to be married, then the ability to be open is one of the most important factors. Ask him how he feels about it (an engagement) and tell him that you think it's important. Perhaps once he understands it's importance to you, he'll go ahead and make it happen.

Answer 3

Maybe you shouldnt be more specific about marriage... but maybe suggest that engagement is just a symbolic view of taking your relationship to the next level. When i got engaged we bought a ring together from an antique storefpr £80 which is like $40... it was very romantic and the ring had so much more meaning, mine didnt have a diamond but as soon as the money was avaliable one was put in, so that might be something to consider rather than proposing actual marriage and scaring him with buying you an expensive ring. Hope that helps.  

Answer 4

Ask him if he is serious about marrying you. It's as simple as that. It sounds like you both ate commited enough and mature enough for it. My husband didn't propose to me until he was done with school so maybe that is what he's waiting for? To make sure you guys are both financially ready.

~MLF~

Answer 5

Tell him.  Tell him what your goals and plans are and what you want in the future.  Let him know your time line and expectations.  Then let him tell you if it matches what he wants.  People spend a lot of time trying to subtly let people know things.  Just clearly tell him, then there is no confusion.

Answer 6

I know this probably isn't the answer you would like to hear- but give him a chance! It seems like the two of you are on the right track already. Keep in mind that just beacuse ur engaged doesnt mean that things can't get broken off... Maybe he wants to ask you when he graduates?? Maybe he has a surprise planned out that's in a different season. I understand that you would like to be engaged already- I am in that boat also..my BF of 14 months and I live together and he is helping me through school...I would love to be engaged to him already BUT I take a step back and look at the amazing man in my life and go.. I have to be thankful for all the blessings that I have today and be patient for what is to come.  

Answer 7

All you can do is hint around and then talk to him about what you're thinking - that you're ok with a long engagement.  He may not be proposing because 1) he wants to be able to afford a nicer, more expensive ring or 2) he assumes you'll want to get married right away.  So, it's important to clear up any misconceptions he may have.  Men have alot of pride when it comes to the ring.  To them, it's almost a symbol of them that you're wearing on your finger so most men don't like settling for a lesser ring.  They'd rather wait & buy something nicer because it reflects on them.  But I hear you - I'd be the same way probably!  He just needs to know it's ok...that you aren't the type of girl who NEEDS that 4 carart diamond or anything!  He's a lucky guy.

Answer 8

You can be engaged without having a ring.  Frankly, if the two of you are having financial difficulties, then I don't think it would be a wise decision for him to spend money on a ring right now.  Perhaps he considers himself engaged to you already...???  Sounds like you are really just wanting a ring...