How do I make my bestfriend happy?

Question

Ok, so my bestfriend and I just turned 20 and she is so miserable!! She is such a nice person and a great friend but she is just always angry with everyone and life. I told her to change her attitude and to be a better person but it is like she doesn't really want to change cuz she feels like people still treat her bad. The only person I know that doesn't treat her respectfully is this boy who they have been off and on for about 4 years. I don't know what to do anymore can someone help me. I mean I try to listen, and give her advice but nothing is working anymore. . . .

Answer 1

ask her to go to a counsler or have an intervention ... Maybe she needs to stop seeing this boy. she might think at the time he makes her happy but going on and off with the same person can be terrible .... have her talk to someone !  

Answer 2

you are obviously a good friend but your mate needs to help herself and stop feeling sorry for herself. if this boy is no good she needs to get rid of him a new man might make her happier but there is nothing you can do unless she pulls herself together first. dont let her get you down

Answer 3

ok obviously she's hurting inside from something?!? why don't you take her out with that boy that's been off and on with her for 4 years? somethings in her mind that's triggering her to act the way she is. She's needing something, comfort? trust? something? just go somewhere with her, some where that you and her and that guy can just go and have fun? Camping, concerts? traveling to a place like SanFransico? something? I don't know what you may have in mind, but even though she says no tell her it's for you, that you want this for the sake of your guy's friendship, that you want to spend time with her to not only try you hardest and best to get to the core of this problem and that you want to spend some fun time with her and that guy?

Answer 4

-Be patient

-Go out of your way to do something really really nice for her

-ask her if everything is ok

-ask her if she wants a pet (or something else she'd love that might be missing from her life)

-express how important she is to you and how much you care about her and how important her happiness is to you

Answer 5

It sounds like your friend wants to be miserable. There's nothing more frustrating then trying to convince somebody to be happy when they don't even want to be. Your beating your head against a brick wall. The only advice I would give her is to move on, find a guy, go to school, get a job, LIVE! Life only lasts so long and being miserable is a really ridiculous way to spend it!

Answer 6

Okay. Maybe just make her stay away or disconnect her from the boy (secretly). Make a plan to do as many activities that u can think of n make sure ur bff would be interested so she'd go n do those activities with u. Keeping her busy with other things might help her. Maybe like spend the whole weekend with her n ur other girlfriends but no contact to other people while doing it. U know, girlfriends only. Its girls party!! Have fun.

Answer 7

tell her to try what you said and if it doesn't work she can go back to the way she was

Answer 8

See if she can go to a counselor. Have her mom or someone else talk to her maybe its just you she cant talk to....