How do I make my friends realise i am not slef harming for attention?

Question

i told one of my friends the other day that i self harm and she totally dismissed the idea about it . how do i make her see that i have a problem and that i do need her help right now to get through it.. i also wanted to ask how to bring up these types of issues with a psychologist because this problem has become out of control adn i know i need help but i am just too emnarrassed

Answer 1

I was a cutter.

I was seeing a therapist and eventually she realized what I was doing.

You just have to be very up front with the psychologist. Just tell them straight out. It will be hard but they deal with that stuff daily.

As for your friend, you need to explain to her why you do it. Explain your feelings and tell her how much it means to you that she understands and supports you.  

Answer 2

you are doing the right thing you have realized that you have a problem that's good that's step one and remember you are not alone step two talk to your parents tell them whats happening and whats bothering you step three go see someone about it like your doctor.

most of all before you think about hurting yourself think about what feels right hurting yourself or talking about whats going on through your head.

like i said your not alone i was there and im still there i found that it helps to talk about it also what helps me i think about who will be missing me when im gone like my children..pease dont hurt yourself its not worth it

if you need to talk email me at [e-mail] i will do my best helping you and being an email buddy just dont hurt yourself okay

Answer 3

I've been a cutter, too. I haven't done it in over a year. All I can think of is tell your friend that you need her help. Let her know how she can help you. I am sure when she has a better understanding on how to help you, she might be able to help you better. If you need her to just listen (to have someone vent to), tell her, "I need someone to vent to, even if you don't have a response, just knowing someone knows helps me." This way she knows she doesn't always have to respond to what's going on. If you need help in other things, let her know this. Let her know how hard this is on you and how uncontrollable this is. Tell her you want help and seek after it. I don't know if you're in school, but talk to the counselor at school and let them know you need help. Take care of yourself!

Answer 4

www.Pieta.ie/SelfHarm  

Answer 5

other people are sometimes hard to rely on. you've got the strength inside you. after all, you control your own destiny. i'm trying by keeping myself busier. i'm getting another job. it's helping me when i'm out and about more. when i get home, i'm too tired to worry about anything. what helps you?

Answer 6

Hi,

Im sorry to hear that your friend thinks you are attention seeking.  Sadly thats an ignorant view many people have about self-harm!

Try sitting down and talking to her again.  Explain that it took a lot of courage to open up, and you did it because you thought you could trust her and explain that her reaction has hurt you.  If she is unlikely to take your word for it about your self harm, print off some fact sheets about self harm from credible sites like "Mind".  It will help her to understand the true nature of why you might self harm.

I think if you currently have no help for your help harm, your best bet is to go to your doctor and take it from there.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Once you take the step of getting help and you're actually sitting down with a counselor or other professional, the hardest part is behind you and you will probably find it easy to talk about it. While your friends care for you and will be as supportive as they can, it's understandable that they might not really get it -- it's a scary and complicated issue for a lot of people. Remember you are not in charge of what they think. Take care of you. Best wishes.

Answer 8

i too was a cutter for 6 years. i still get teh urge. you obvioously came for help to a person who you thought was your friend. i know how hard it can be when they dont believe you. you need to go to a school councelor and talk to her about it. i find it easier to write a letter, stating whats happening, and give it to your parents or councelor, whoever u feel will help most. from there they will refer you to another councelor or a psychiatrist if you are reallyy depressed. try to stay out of it, its bad for you :) love love take care and god speed

Answer 9

try to explain to her that what you are going through is serious. and try to contact a school counselor or seek professional help. and just casually bring to there attention that you need help. and don't be scared, you are only helping yourself. so they will understand. it is not healthy to keep this bottled all up inside. so talk to someone asap. about this.

Answer 10

Unfortunately your friend may be totally insensitive, or it could be that she is scared by it and doesn't know how to deal with knowing her friend is self-harming.  It's good that you are aware of what it is doing to you and that you need help..that's the first step to helping yourself to recover, but you need professional intervention, so as already suggested, speak to your School Counsellor or Nurse and don't be embarrassed, there is nothing to be ashamed of and with the right help you will get through this.

I wish you all the best x