How do I make sure that my husband's ex-step-dad doesn't come to use when he's released from prison?

Question

My hubby's step dad is divorced. He's still madly in love with his ex-wife. They weren't married long before he went in. He has two daughters who were 1 and just born when he went in. He really wants to go back to his ex wife, but she cheated on him, filed for divorce, and is now with another man for 2 yrs.

My husband's step dad doesn't understand what the economy is like, how hard it is to get a job, gas prices, etc. He wants to go to Virginia when he gets out. It's a lot more expensive living there than it is in Pennsylvania (where we live). I'm afraid he comes to our house and tries to live with us. My husband wasn't honest and said different reasons why he is in prison. My mom thinks he's in for rape. My husband claims he assaulted a minor.

We have a 1 yr. old daughter and I am not about to let an ex-con live with us in another year when he's released. My husband doesn't understand the repercussions of his actions and is sending him $100 this month. He will have about $200 for when he gets out.

I'm ready to intercept the letters they send each other so that all communication is cut off so he doesn't come looking for us when he gets out! What should I do to protect our marriage and our home? We rent right now and our lease clearly states that no one else is allowed to move in. Our lease also ends before he gets out.

Answer 1

You just have to put your foot down!  I absolutely do not blame you for not wanting this man to be around your daughter.  You have to tell your husband that he has to chose him or you and your daughter.  I am sure he will make the right decision.  

Answer 2

answer= i read your long and sad letter,we are not supposed to live in torment our entire lives,we have the right to live in peace ,find that peace for you and your daughter,get a house with security,an unlisted phone number,and a new address for your mail,as your lease is ending,move out,decide what you want to do with your marriage.

                   take care,god bless,all the best, find that peace that you and your child deserves.

Answer 3

Make it very clear to your husband that his ex step dad is not welcome to stay with you. Even if it is just to get him back on his feet. It could be many months or years before that happens. Your husbands first priority should be you and your child. If you don't feel comfortable or unsafe don't let it happen.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

omg i feel bad for you iw ould be totally scared have a talk ith your hisband try to scare him a bti us woman need to have a husbands in our hands lol you would wnat that terrible man living in your house with your daughter and if your mom thinks he rapes then you should find out a bit more aabout him you wont wnt him hands on you and try researching about him more so you no the real reason about why his in jail and ask you husband why again and again cause if you think his lying his not a good husband then and try to complain and dont let this pld man into your house

gd luck anyways

man i feel bad for you

cya....xx

Answer 6

You are absolutely right for wanting to protect your family! your husband better realize his connection with you should be much stronger than his felon stepdad. Talk to yout hubby, read bible verses to him. do whatever is necessary, but don't get yourselves mixed up with this felon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!