How do I move forward when my fiance has married someone else?!?!?

Question

My ex-fiance, who is from Morocco, got married. We kind of broke up two weeks ago, but still talk all the time and seemed to be working through the issues a little. I found out, from him, that he got married yesterday. (He wasn't even going to tell me...I figured it out from a change of tone!!!)

To further complicate things, I am moving to Morocco in 10 days to teach...which he was well aware of.

So...how do I handle this?!

Please don't tell me not to go to Morocco, because I have signed a contract and rented my apartment, so it's not really an option.

Just looking for some advice about how to be okay with things...because currently, I am seriously falling apart.

Please...no joke answers...I can't take it right now.

Answer 1

I think you should go ahead and fall apart. Cry, scream, be sad. But only for a little while.  You decide. Then decide that you are worth somebody love,especially your own, and get over it. Live again, have fun, dance, and be happy. Call your friends and enjoy being single!! You life must go on, without him and it should. Do things that make you happy, learn that being without him is not so bad. Good luck.

Answer 2

You need to sever it. As hard as that is to hear, he has moved on. He may be talking to you but you do not want to be that gal on the side that he keeps promising that he will come to one day. You will not have a future with this guy and it sounds like he has done you a favor if he married someone after you only broke up two weeks ago. He has probably been seeing her for awhile. Go to Morocco and meet some gorgeous man and fall in real lasting love.

Answer 3

Always be true to yourself, you can't go wrong.  It's great that you are going to Morocco to teach.  It sounds as if you have a  good start, you already have a apartment and will be doing something you love.  Maybe one day you and your X can be friends, now is not the time.  You are going to be too busy starting your new life, and it doesn't  matter where he lives. He has made it easy by being dishonest. Best of luck to you, I think you will soon see that everything happens for a reason and you are the lucky one.  Keep your chin up.  

Answer 4

How do you break up two weeks ago and now he's married?

Nevermind the details... I know you're hurt and I have totally felt and been there.

Yes, you need to vent as much as possible. Let it all out. Your body can only take so much. You can't cry forever. It will take time and you can't rush your emotions.

But obviously, I think the thing that hurts people the most is the thought of being alone. You have to see why being alone is such a great thing - you can't imagine how much I went through what you went, and now that I'm back in a relationship I still totally miss being alone!!

Sure, you loved this guy obviously and he hurt you. But aside from the fact that you loved him, you can't possibly tell me he was the only one in the entire world that you could ever love. Really? You think? No way, not possible.

When you're alone and you reek of confidence, men are automatically drawn to you. Guys are intrigued as h**l to meet the woman who for some freakin reason doesn't feel the need to be srrounded by superficial women all the time while they're out. I got hit on so much when I was single - but not during my sad times because I gave off that depressed vibe.

But when I decided for myself that it was time to see the otherside and try actually feeling happy, OMG, I got lots of attention. I have girlfriends that are gorgeous and I would go out with them, and it was ME who ended up meeting the hot guy that night and having the best time.

Your loss is only your opportunity to find something better. Things will never get worse for you. IF anything, if this guy that you cry over really was that great, and you know for a fact that there are better guys out there, don't you think you are smart enough to meet someone who's better rather than someone who's worse?

If you're dumb, you'll end up with worse. But you don't consider yourself so and I should hope not.

Enjoy being alone. Alone DOES NOT mean lonely.... it means being independent and going to sleep when you want, going out when you want, and having to answer to no one.

Poor miserable married woman... she just cut all her loose ends are tied up now with a predictable future.

You? You now have the potential to start new hobbies, travel, eat new foods, see new places... and somewhere along your new ventures you will meet a new guy that, had you not started trying all these new things, you would have never met him or have even considered dating someone like him.

And you'l thank being single for that.

Trust me, this is definately the right path for you now, it was the path you were meant to have. You don't NEED a man to support you, so why worry about having one?

Enjoy Morocco!! =)