How do I move past all of the hurt and pain and not let it get in the way of my life?

Question

I've had such a terrible childhood and the h**l never ends. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom adopted some of his ways..being irate, verbally abusive and such. She's always yelling at me, asking me why I can't be like this or why I can't do things like that. Just tonight she called me a 'little devil' when I have had absolutely nothing to do with her today. How can I not let this hurt me anymore and live my life as best I know how? As happily as I can? I'm only 13 and I'm so lost.

Answer 1

This is a huge deal, to me.  Someone that is supposed to care for and protect you is acting like your worst enemy.  How are you supposed to have self-esteem in a situation like this?  You depend on your parents for survival, and they are toxic to you.

I think there is a group called Al-ateen, for kids of alcoholics, a support group that teaches you how to cope with the issues of substance abuse by parents.  

You need people around you that will help and guide you.  If you look under Alcoholics Anonymous you will probably find a link for teens.

Answer 2

The first thing is to remember that parents are just people with all kinds of problems and that their problems are not yours:  Do not let the comments they make define who you are/will be.

Consult with a trusted family member.  If that doens't work go to your school counselor and tell them you need to talk to the school pyscologist about some family problems; explain it's confidential and if they call your parents the situation will worsen.

If this is worse then you are saying and you are abused, please call child protective services (cps).  Your local police department will have there number.  If this is just an issue your parents getting mad at you, don't call cps unless you are ready to be taken from the home.

Answer 3

their is not much that you can do about it, just keep your head down and soon you can get outta their and you will.

then you can go and be yourself just know that you are ok as you are and that what is said by her in that respect is not right or you can always try and get into a grand parents or something if you can and they are alive

Good luck

Answer 4

usually, for me, to get passed horrible times, is to focus on the future.

Just think of growing up going to college and being soo much better & richer than them.

Answer 5

just try to be a happy person and ignore the mean things your mom says! good luck =)

Answer 6

well the truth is, because you're so young it is going to bother you. oh by the way you're grammar is way better than any 13 year olds i know. anyhow, you have like 9 more years with them beforeyou go to college and do your own thing. she will scream and yell and call you names so will he and unless you have a strong will, a very high self esteem, a desire to persevere and not let them anything they say upset you, if you want to prove them wrong, then you probably can get their words to stop hurting you. at the end of the day words are just words they do not ean anything unless you make it mean something, they do not define you unless you define yourself with that word. you have more power over your mind than they do so use it, let what they say just fly over your shoulder, dont think about it because more often than not they are untrue.remember that one day you will prove them wrong.