How do I not act spoiled?

Question

I have been told many times by friends, family and friends of friends that I act very spoiled.

I kinda agree, I do sometimes (LOL).

I don't want to act this way anymore, it doesn't make me seem a nice person even though I am.

The thing is, I HATE sharing my things and because of the way I have been brought up, I always think of myself before others.

Any ideas on how I can overcome this?

Thanks to anyone who answers me! :)

Answer 1

just be really really nice. and if ur like shopping or something, than don't not get something because your mom or someone will buy it for you or things like that. if they think that you are spoiled, than maybe they don't know the true you, and that isn't right of them to judge you so they suck

Answer 2

Just try to share. You're going to have to get over that sooner or later. And, I think the best way is to just like force your self to do it. Don't brag about anything you have. Just force youself to be less selfsish lol. It's probably easier said then done.

Answer 3

My firends and family say I act the same way, which is weird I never did before. My husband spoils me rotten, so I think I just picked it up. Maybe you could try volunteering somewhere that could humble you very quickly. Like a nursing home or a dog kennel. Both things will humble very quickly. I used to do it as a teenager. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Share.

Be VERY grateful when you get a gift or when someone does somthing for you.

Help around the house.

Answer 5

do something to showpeople your not stuck up& spoiled people sometimes call me spoiled because i have nice things blackberry ipod camera nice shoes always 20s in my wallet but bo one has ever called me stuck up or anyhting like that because of the person i am i dont judge people on what they have or dont have im friendly to everyone reguardless of there status at schoool i can honetly say im a good person and that proves most of all who i am show people that you are a good person and all the material things you have or own dont make a person who they are

Answer 6

You might want to volunteer in your community.  That way you'll see how people who are less fortunate than you live.  And it will make you more humble and thankful for all that you have.  

Just give an honest effort to change.  But don't give up.  And it will happen.  Bragging is in poor taste.  So don't do it.  Just try being more gracious and giving.  Not just of your material things but of your time.  Because when you change, you grow.  And helping others will only make you a better person.

Answer 7

Act appreciative, thank people and wish them a good day.  Find a support group of similar people who also want to be less spoiled.

Answer 8

always share and put other people before yourself

its the easies way :P

hang out with some people with real problems

it will put everything in perspective

Answer 9

Hey :]

I am in the same dilema as you!

I just make sure to help people who are less fortunate as me.

Give to different charites.

Help people.

Become involved in school activites, charites ect...

Dont show off all your stuff to your friends if they dont have as much as you do!

  

Answer 10

awareness and admitting it is the first step. think before you speak or act.  

Answer 11

well if you act spoilt you might want to change it because the one thing I cant stand is spoilt brats (please note that I live in a tiny house with 5 peope and the only thing I worry about is money and I am only 13) if you have money give it to people who actually need it.  

Answer 12

Set aside some "me" time so you can figure out exactly what it is about you that you want to change for the better. Once you have this sorted, you can make plans for how you think you can change those aspects of yourself.

If it's purely selfishness you want to overcome, then try to let go. I'm not particularly happy when sharing my stuff either, but if it's for my friends then I trust that I'm gonna get it back in the same condition I gave it to them in.

Are you a single child? I'm the youngest of two childrent, but my brother is 9 years older then me so I've basically been brought up as a single child as my brother moved out a few years ago and before then he was either in his room the whole time or down my grandparents for the summer (I do love my brother though. That's the reason we have such an amiable brother/sister relationship). Anyway, the point of this paragraph is that children that have been brought up without siblings tend to be spoiled. I used to be (and sometimes tend to still be) selfish and seemed spoiled but I got over it by realising not everything is about me all the time.

My main inspiration has to be music. It's like my religion. The music I listen to deals with important issues such as politics and how world leaders seem to s***w everyone over to get where they wanna be (yes, I'm reffering to punk/rock and pop/rock). The type of music you listen to does reflects what kind of person you are, but it's mainly the way you interprate the music really. People think I'm emo for listening to emotional hardcore. I'm actually one of the happiest people I know (yes, I hang out with some seriously depressed people xD lmao). Anyway, I'm loosing sight of the point of this answer >.<

The bottom line is, your environment and life style effect what kind of person you are. Listen to the songs "If everyone cared", "Savin' Me", "Next Contestant" and "Animals" (the last two PURELY because they are awsome songs ^^) by NickelBack and watch the music video to "A Beautiful Lie" by 30 Seconds to Mars. The songs are a good way to hear about things in life that you should really be focusing on (stuff that doesn't include youself) and the musci video is a good way to realise something that effects the whole world (BRAIN WAVE!! Lol sorry I just remembered another good song to listen to. "Photograph" by Nickelback :]).

Hope this helped, even a little bit ^^ (probably didn't but hey! At least I tried :D)

Answer 13

im a twin and i was brought up sharing everything, and i mean everything

well a good start to fix your prob is to have an open mind, also try to be a bit more friendly so people see the nice person side that you want them to see, and lastly just try to stop yourself if u know that u r acting spoiled

Good Luck hope i helped :)

Answer 14

It's all a mental thing. When I have bad habits I want to break I make myself do the opposite all of the time. Such as if I eat a lot of bread and I want to stop it, I will go and eat just a slice of turkey instead of ingesting the carbs. After about two weeks the habit won't be a habit anymore, but it will be hard. It's easy to convince yourself that "its ok this time" but if you do it once it will ruin the whole thing. So for your situation I suggest forcing yourself to share things even when people don't ask for it. Just try offering somethings, and even if they say no you will feel like you've accomplished something. Keep in mind your goal and that this will make you an overall better person, don't revert to your old thinking and say "yeah...but this is MINE." To opperate succesfully in this world sharing is kind of a base line tactic. And don't use the fact that you were brought up that way as an excuse, just beacuse your family or whoever instilled that in you doesn't mean that it can't be broken. Lots of people just blame things on outside forces because they don't feel they can control the situtations themselves, but thats the thing, you can do it, and its a lot easier then your mind is leading it on to be.