How do I not cry when I get shouted at?

Question

I always seem to cry when I am shouted at loudly (usually for making a complete mistake), for a moment I can hold them in, but if they keep shouting for a long time, I cry or walk away and cry. I wish I could just get angry than not cry. But rarely do I ever get angry. Help? It's really annoying and embarrassing to me.

Answer 1

its natural to let out ur emotions......and can be very hard to control...i dont think u should worry about this.....because u cry when u get shouted out loudly and a lot of ppl would cry.....sure it can be embarrassing but its healthier to let it all out than bottle it all up inside....just be strong and confident..... :)

i can relate....i cry too and a lot of ppl do...they just hide it....

Answer 2

i cry sometimes too

because i hav a horrible past.

reminds me of when i was very young n got yelled at my my dad

anyway, close your eyes for a moment. think about a moment you were truly happy.:)

Answer 3

try thinking of something funny happening to the person whos shoutingg!

like try and blur out what theyre saying by concentrating on them having a big huge purple hat with flowers on or something stupid like that

it sounds really stupid but actualy works haha :D

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Answer 4

awww! I hope someone has an answer cause i cry too!

Answer 5

think of something funny, and remember nobody is perfect we all make mistakes, then go watch a funny movie.  

Answer 6

i get yelled at a lot but sometimes the person is upset because you made a mistake no big deal but it must be to them but i just let it go right throw me i mean y worry about the little things u should just forget what they said they don't mean it there just frustrated or something.

Answer 7

i used to have the same problem and asked this same question. when i got yelled at 4 makin a mistake i would cry so i tried to stop. when i asked how to stop 1 idiot said dont s***w up but thats not my advice. when i get angry i focus in on somthing that might be helpful. in your case it wood be best to wait and observe weaknesses then if som1 yells at u, u can catch them off guard a little inside knowledge. if that doesnt suit u there is always a way to channel your anger into somthing new and sort of productive like music er somthin. u can also try to have som1 around on ur side because it sounds like u have an issue unless u have som1 to 2 lead or help u, which is a very good quality. and i agree with leia 100% no 1 should yell if u mess up its just them being insecure.

Answer 8

Read Verbal Abuse, Emotional Blackmail, In Sheep's Clothing, The Sociopath Next Door and Social Intelligence.

If you still can't completely remove yourself from the person screaming at you , try Narcissism and Intimacy, and Trapped In The Mirror.

You are BEAUTIFUL

Maintain your energy by walking away.

Why should you adapt to a profoundly sick person?

Answer 9

Farina says:

When a person shouts at you, realize they are just people, and not a "big towering guy."

I concur. A lot of people become fearful and break down when they feel they are being pressured upon. You need to retaliate. Just know that the person who is shouting at you is nothing more than just an ordinary human who makes mistakes as well. It makes no sense for someone who is no more better than you are to be giving you the lip.

Answer 10

yeah, do u like believe in horoscopes and stuff? cuz if u do ur likely 2 be a pisces like me. i get very emotional when i get shouted at too which is rarely but i do cry alot. one way is to try to block it out. like think of something else.  

Answer 11

First of I don't think you should be shouted at, even if you made a mistake, whoever is shouting at you is mistaking by shouting, it's wrong to shout.

Second of when I feel like crying and didn't want to, I just keep telling myself I am strong, I can hold my tears, my tears aren't worth it etc, I keep telling my mind things and it doesn't happen.  Try that yourself and see if it works.

Answer 12

i'm sorry 2 hear dat i have the same problem too i just get so mad or sad or happy(not about shouting) i just Cry. Gurl dont worry just let it ALL out. theres nothin wrong wit lettin emotions out

Answer 13

So do i.

Try thinking something else ..

if u cant theres really no way to stop the crying.

Answer 14

learn from your mistakes,, improve ur self

then it wont happen

still if it happens,, then shout on them,, u'll not cry coz u'll no that its not ur mistake,,,,, so u will shout from within.........

Answer 15

i hate when that happens to me too, even if they aren't yelling at me just saying it was my mistake

Answer 16

That happens to me to but usually it is when someone hits me but anyways try this technique i use it might work on you it kinda works on me but anyways here goes ok picture yourself crying then pretend like a wall just splits your crying self and your regular mood self in half and your crying self is hidden behind a wall or you could think of something really funny and smile it makes the person who is yelling at you really mad.I did that to my mom one time and she said she hated me hahahahaha she sounded so childish it was fu*king funny.

Answer 17

Great responses so far.

Honestly think it comes with age with a thick skin. In my teens and 20's you could make me cry instantly with one strong word. Now in my 30's, I still have my moments, but they aren't as often. Most of the time I turn on my defense mechinism and begin defending myself. Earlier, I would have never done that.

Hang in there. You are getting great advise here.

Answer 18

easy dont pay attention.sounds easier said than done.but instead of looking down at the ground or straight at the persons eye's look at his/her forehead.

Answer 19

i would say maybe just think of happy thoughts and if that doesn't work try to yell back cause then you will feel powerful too  

Answer 20

ur possibly suffering from mild depression or anxiety... were u ever bullied or picked on? are u insecure about urself?

Answer 21

pretend they are congratulating you. i know it sounds weird, but it works for me.

Answer 22

I am the same way, or at least was. Now I'm a tad better at dealing with it. What I do is think of something else, and really visualize. I imagine that someone is there with me in the same place, like my best friend or boyfriend. I also visualize my "reward" at the end of the day ie: I will get a big paycheck.

I had lots of mistakes when I was working in a restaurant also in another job taking calls and trying to retain angry customers. All the visualizing I did of good, positive things REALLY helped. Also it helps if you keep telling yourself things like "this is just a job, I don't know these people and they don't know me."

When a person shouts at you, realize they are just people, and not a "big towering guy." I used to have a monstrous supervisor, but smirked at his back everytime he gives me another lecture. Just laugh it off and think about hanging out with your friends in the weekend.

Answer 23

hmm..well, you could try thinking how much it would really REALLY suck to be that person who feels the need shout at you...Making mistakes are human and that's how we learn. Berating is unneccessary. Good luck. I wouldn't be embarrassed for yourself, I'd be embarrassed for them.

Answer 24

I cry when I find myself seriously listening to what they are saying and believe their words.

When they are yelling, take a second and hear the words, and think to yourself, "That's a lie".

Or. "That's not true, I am not that way".

If you don't believe what is being shouted then you aren't going to get sad.  Because if a person is shouting at you (which they shouldn't) than their words have no meanings anyways.

Answer 25

Have you tried telling them that it was a mistake?  What helps me is that if it really is a mistake, but they won't listen to you about it, I laugh at them on the inside because they are making a complete fool of themselves.  If it's not a mistake, then, well, you probably deserve to cry.  lol.  Sorry.  I don't really cry anymore when someone yells at me, because I'm yelling right back at them on the inside and being defiant.  Then I go somewhere that I'm alone and let it all out, so it's not all bottled up inside.  It really helps.

Answer 26

that happened to my friend i just told her just to sing ur favorite song in your head and pretend the person shouting is singing it really loud it sounds stupid but works!!

Answer 27

Your just an emotional person, there is nothing wrong with that

ITS WHO YOU ARE!

Just remember, if someone is yelling at you, it doesn't matter. Even if you start crying, it doesn't matter.

God Bless

Answer 28

because they producing big waves of negative energy and your blocking mechanism isn't developed yet, just learn  to turn your hearing speaker volume down by the power of your mind

rolfmao......

Answer 29

Just try to think positive. And most importantly, if you're the crying type of  person, prepare yourself! If you think someones gonna yell or shout at you, just take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and try to think positive - again. Take what he/she's yelling to you about as constructive criticism. Or if the yelling is pointless, just think of yourself as the bigger person, for coping with his/her lack of temper control. And crying is not a bad thing anyways.

Answer 30

Its very common with me too. The thing to do is to think different and happy thoughts. For example if someone is shouting at you for breaking a vase, then just think of the thing you most love like chocolate and forget the vases.

I hope it helps you!! If it doesn't help, then just tell them sorry but wait till they finish yelling!!

Answer 31

I have the same problem. :[

But you give yourself self confidence. In  your mind, you fight back. saying its not true, I know myself and it was a mistake, nobodys perfect. you know? stuff like that[: