Recently my husband and I were each diagnosed with something. Me, an ulcer, and him, a skin condition. He told me he'd gladly trade my ulcer for his skin condition which made me a bit upset. He does this often. I rarely complain about my ailments but once in a while when I do, his immediate comment is "how do you think I feel with (insert pain here)?" Or he'll say "I had that and mine was a lot worse because (insert reason his was worse than mine and that I have no reason to complain). It's like it's all about him. How does he know how I feel? I don't downplay his discomforts. Also, one night I became ill and was up most of the night. We think it was due to my ulcer etc. I finally got to sleep around 3 a.m. When I got up, I was feeling better but just like I was getting over a bad flu. He was working outside and he asked me to come and help him lift several heavy items (wood and drywall). I started to tell him that I wasn't feeling well yet but he started to get upset saying he couldn't lift everything by himself. So I went and helped him fuming silently to myself. If he wasn't well, he would never do anything he wouldn't want to, and I wouldn't expect him to either. I would respect him not feeling able to do it. Why doesn't he treat me the same way? Argh, so tired of this and not feeling like an equal to him. I don't feel like I even matter and that it's all about him all the time.
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