How do I open up and be more social without being self concious?

Question

I have been very reserved for the past 2 years of my life and havent gone out at all with my friends...i have even avoided phone calls to the point where they finally stopped calling.

The reason i stopped going out was because I could never be social and make good conversation with anyone...sometimes i would end up being the butt of jokes and get laughed at.

I am a very likeable person though and everyone is always really concerned about me and wants me to go out and meet them...they are always emailing me checking up on me...

So now i wanna go out and have a nice time with my friends how do i do that?how do i make good conversation?how do i enjoy myself and show others a good time too?

Answer 1

You can start by just going. you dont have to always talk or start conversations, you will notice that you usually end up talking because someone else has asked you a question or started a topic, let it flow! there is no script, it is not awkward to go out and not speak very much, they know who you are allow them to be who they are, you laugh at there jokes and listen to what they say they will love you and you are showing them a good time, they make you laugh they are showing you a good time :) dont be so timid that you dont want to go out period. It is a part of life that sometimes you dont know what to say, so what! lol be like yea i have no idea what to say, if you are with a group of friends, you guys will never run out of things to talk about, and i am betting that you will never have to start a topic, unless of course you want to. and you will want to. How can you get to know what they like to talk about, what makes them laugh and anything about them if you dont make a good listner out of yourself first? lol so just go out listen to them and laugh with them and you will start to feel more comfortable and you will be able to have a flowing conversation where you will know what to say. If you ever are unsure then notice how your other friends speak and what they do and what they say dont copy them exactly but glean from them

dont ever ever ever fake it, because then you end up trying to be someone you are not, and you lose a part of yourself, be who you are, and then learn how to be social dont fake! people know when you are faking and i hate to be around fake folk. And normally when you fake it you are not being yourself, that is no good, you want people to like you for you not another person you created

Answer 2

Try faking it. It actually works, and was how I became more social after leaving high school. Fake the confidence too. After a while of faking it, it actually becomes natural, and you're no longer faking being social, you actually are being social.

As for not being good at conversation, just try to think before you say something. Make sure that when you run it in your own head it doesn't come out wrong. Better to be someone who talks a bit less than someone who says awkward or inappropriate things.

Answer 3

hmmm....interesante

Answer 4

Just get out and have some fun.  Be yourself and people will

be drawn to you...........

Answer 5

You should go out and have fun and if people laugh at you, just laugh too.  have a good time and don't care if they laugh at you. Make a joke about them and then they'll  laugh too.have a good time. Don't make it seem like you are a stick in the mud

Answer 6

actually all you do is open your mouth and talk about the first thing you think of: without thinking about what your saying

and remember to use your manners

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u just faked it?how?just appeared confident?i have tried it but end up making a fool outta myself or things juts end up going wrong...

Know yourself, learn to love yourself,be comfortable, this skill develops overtime