How do I overcome being bitter towards my child's father?

Question

I have a 2month old and me and my child's father have been broken up since I was 6months pregnant, but we were still back and forth off and on. I now know a lot of things about him that he doesn't know that I know. Like the fact that he bought a girl to my babyshower that he was sleeping with. I went through a lot. He treated me like c**p while I was pregnant and still doesn't show much respect towards me. He goes around sleeping with women and have no regards to my feelings. I find myself very bitter and disrespectful towards him. Sometimes I'll get really upset with him for no apparent reason. I'll just start being really disrespectful. he classifies me as crazy when I start being disrespectful. I'm dating and whatever and he shows jealousy a bit or he'll just ignore it. What do I do not to be bitter? I'm still hurt by everything and the way he disrespected me while I was pregnant is still in my head. I'm upset of the fact that he doesn't want to be a man and try to have a family. He reminded me over and over that we weren't together. He even said it in front of a girl to prove to her that we weren't together. He chose those women over me and still continues to. How do I stop hurting and being bitter? I'm really trying to get over it but it feels as if he's getting away with murder and walks scotch free.

Answer 1

I know that this is hard.  You expected the baby's father to be a man and be there to support you during your pregnancy and support the baby after.  

He isn't going to be there for you.  You are just going to have to realize that.  Some day he may want to be in the baby's life and you will have to find a way to make that work.  In the meantime, take him to court and at least make him pay child support.

Just remember that the best revenge you can take is to be happy and live well.

Answer 2

Get him out of your life.  If he doesn't want to be a part of the child's life, get away from him.  The more you see him or talk to him, the more you will WANT to see him and talk to him.  If he does want to be in the child's life, don't let him into yours.  He's a dog!  Do you want your child to grow up thinking that it's ok that women get treated that way?!  Do this for your child.  A baby can tell when mom's stressed.

Answer 3

Good Grief what does he have to do hit you over the head with the empire state building?  He doesn't want you and never liked you.  You were a convenience.  Get over it and move on.  Improve your self esteem and find someone better to spend your time on.  You are too good a person to put up with this c**p.  Take your kid and go and let him figure out how to pay the child support and make visitation.  You should be done with this jerk.

Answer 4

Its time to put the big girl pants on and be an adult. He doesnt have to be with you and he doesnt owe you anything. He doesnt owe you an apology for being with other women. Your not together. The only responsibility he has is to his son. If you keep going back and sleeping with him all your doing is becoming his convenient piece of ***. You know he doesnt want to be with you. He has said it. Start listening and learn the lesson.