I don't love my husband. He used to be emotionally, mentally, verbally, financially and sexually abusive. After I threatened him to leave and he believed me, he has been trying to change. But all my love has disappeared for a long time now. I don't know if he is changing, or I have adopted a defense mechanism and adjusted my personality to reduce the tension. The thing is I don't like my personality when I am with him. I have lost my confidence and I want to gain it back. I have developed a lot of fears and self-doubt. The more I try to get my confidence back, the more I fail. Because I have to behave in a certain way with him. So the only solution I think of is getting divorce and living apart so that over time I could find myself again, because with him it's impossible. The thing is I don't have any motivation to better my relationship with him or hope to change him for the better. He is who he is, and I am who I am, and I think we are not compatible. I got very depressed while ago and saw a counselor and she pointed out to me that I am too tolerant and I am ignoring my needs and justifying his behavior and he is indeed abusive.
How do I overcome the fear of getting divorce?
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