How do I phrase this on a report card?

Question

Hello all! I need help with how to phrase a report card

comment. I have a girl in my three year old class who is

very mature and independent. However, she "knows" how

intelligent she is and she wants to be like the little

teacher. She is constantly helping her classmates with

tasks such as unzipping their backpacks, hanging up their

items in the coatroom, putting a puzzle together, etc. She

is almost smothering them and not allowing them to do

things for themselves. She also tattles constantly. How do

I address this on her report card? Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

You need to phrase your comment in a positive way.  Say that the child has wonderful leadership skills and your goal that you will be working on with her will be to help her manage her leadership skills.  When you talk with the parents, be sure you tell them that she is a wonderful future leader, and that all little leaders this age need to learn how to manage those skills.  You will be teaching her that the other children are growing up too, and she needs to give them a chance to learn to take care of themselves.  You will teach her how to use her words to help.  For example, instead of taking off little Suzie's coat and hanging it up, she can explain with her words to Suzie how to unzip her coat and hang it up, and tell Suzie "good job!" when she does it herself.

Answer 2

_____________ is very helpful in the classroom, she enjoys helping her friends and teachers, I just wish she spent more time playing with her friends.

Answer 3

independence theif

Answer 4

Your child has great leadership qualities, is mature for her age, and likes to be independent.  At this age we try to have each child in the class progress at their own speed.  Your daughter is very quick to come to the aid of her fellow classmates, whether it be unzipping their backpack for them, hanging items in the coatroom for them, or even helping to put a puzzle together.  She is a great little helper.

I would like to see if we can work on some extra projects/activities with "_________" , so that she can continue to do well and  the other classmates can become independent and self sufficient on their own.   Any questions please contact me.

Then you can talk with the little girl and explain to her that there are times when you or the other classmates need her help and there are times when she should let you or the other classmate do it by them self .  Try to explain to her that it is good that she already "knows" or "knows how to", but that the others need to learn how by themselves and on their own.  Show her how to stay active on her own projects/activities, while the others learn.

Also you do not need to tell the parents that their daughter is a snitch.  Just explain to the child the difference between telling on a classmate that is doing something that my harm them self or others and telling on a classmate just to get them in trouble.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

Wow, She's very helpful. Maybe say,"

Dear parents,

  Your daughter has been very helpful around the classroom. She helps people by unzipping their backpacks, hanging coats in the coatroom and more. She is very helpful but doesn't let the other kids in the classroom do their own things. She is nice and a little bit too helpful. Maybe teach her other things kids can't do by themselves like maybe if they ask her for some help. Thank you for your time.

                                                                                         Sincerely,

                                                                                      *What ever*

Answer 6

Like another answerer put it:    _______ likes to help others, but too much.

If I were you I would try to find activities that are very challenging for her make her work on something that is not for her age, but maybe her intelligence level.

Answer 7

I would talk to the parents and explain  how important this class is for the other children to learn their independent skills . You may tell the parents that she is a leader, mature, responsible and that she would very much like to take over  your job , but that she must  be taught that there is a time and place for everything. On a positive note, you might actually train her how to "help" without doing it for them, just like YOU do. I don't see this as a negative.... I see that this child has leadership qualities and should be encouraged to use these innate qualities in the proper way rather than shutting her down. THis would make YOU the Best teacher in the world. Helping both the under  and over achievers as well as all of those that fall in between.  When a child is shut down they will either act out or just become invisible. You might want to talk to her parents about the tattling. That always seems to be a problem in the grade schools, much to the point that we adults no longer listen and when something real happens the children are ignored. Such is the story of the Boy Who Cried Wolf. Again, you may want to explain this to the little girl in your own words and explain  how if she tattles on too many small issues,and inane things then when something important happens people will only half listen to her. She sounds as though she would like to be taken seriously.

Answer 8

Really be careful how you word this. You don't want to offend the parents.

I had teachers write on my daughters report card  I would like to see ****** work on being patient and letting her friends work indepentantly.

Really as smart is this child she  has to learn to let her friends do things for themselves.

And if if the parents know thier daughter like I know mine, they will understand were you are coming from

Answer 9

mary lou is a smart child  that wants to lead the other children...at times this can be unsettling to the other children.she needs to learn how to balance her  leadership skills......

Answer 10

______ likes to help other children, but she has a tendency to do it too much.