How do I quit caring about a jerk man?

Question

Long story short...I dated a guy and he cheated on me with his kids mom...I stupidly gave him a second chance and he dumped me out of nowhere to go back to his kids mom. (I found this out waaaaay later) He calls me up four months later (I did not know he was with his kids mom the whole time) and basically said he had just needed some space and wanted another chance with me. The truth was him and his kids mom broke up and he was coming back to me.

I found out about the whole thing with his kids mom...and asked him about it, and he admits it. Two days later he claims that he can't be with me because he "has" to go be with her because of her financial problems...LMAO.

Obviously he is a jerk..but it just bugs me...cuz she is a drunk *** ho, with no job and can't get a job because of her prior DUI history. And I am smart and educated and a great girl. I am back dating and have had some really good dates...but I can't seem to go any farther because I can't get this guy out of my head!

Why would I want him? I despise him in so many ways! He is a liar and a manipulator...why can't I move on? I have to see him everyday at work and I feel like I need to get away from him to move on. Any advice?

Answer 1

Get away from him. I know, i have the same problem with this guy.

Hes such a jerk but i want him.

It might take you awhile but try to get over him. Dont talk to him for a week, no matter how hard he tries and then eventually he will be gone out of your life.

It seems like all he wants is trouble.

Answer 2

You gotta rip this guy apart and let him know he is a low down, lying', good for nothin, sawed off punk that goes running home whenever his knee is skinned. Then you look em in the eye and tell him if he ever steps foot in your space or even mentions your name at work you will be in his face so fast that his head will spin. You got friends here. Then in a soft spoken s**y voice you say, by the way how's she doin for ya,  Baby boy?.    Then it is done.

Answer 3

Well, sit down.

It's you, that's the problem. He is what he is.. you know it. x100 now... and you're not here, there because you're a Victim. You're in it, because of your problems. And you think or don't think at all, that he's somehow important. He's not. He's a jackass, right?

So, what does that make you.

Just wake up tomorrow -- and don't see him anymore. Like he was invisible. Poof! gone. No more drama, for you. Grow up.

Answer 4

yes, this guy is a jerk and does not deserve you. this seems like one of those "she won, I lost" games we women play in our head. especially us smart women who can figure out any problem and solve any delema. or some reason, even when someone hurts us, we have to "win" in the end. Right??? well, sister, i'm here to tell you YOU HAVE WON!!!! letting this guy go is winning and you are going to have to make yourself believe it. don't let yourself get back with this guy and any time you think about him think about pulling a piece of gum from the floor of the mens bathroom in a service station and chewing on it a while. that's just as good for you as this guy. now, be strong! and start living your life!  

Answer 5

I didn't read the whole thing because you are really bad at making long stories short but the answer is one day you will get fed up enough and then you're done for good. It always happens like that for me. One day its just like bam, I'm through.

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Answer 6

Was he a cute black guy

Answer 7

Unfortunately only time can heal... knowing someone is a jerk and forgetting about them are two different things.  Best of Luck and keep listening to your head.  Try to move on and find someone that really meets your standards with the same connection.

Answer 8

As much as it sucks, you seriously cared about him a lot or even loved him and you wont be able to get him out of your head especially if you have to see him everyday. It's going to be hard. Maybe try telling him how you feel or write a letter(not necessarily to give to him, but just to write your feelings out) It seems like you need more closure.

Answer 9

Out of sight out of mind.So you need to get him out of your life, for whatever reason you see him at work every day try to change this so you are not having to deal with seeing him.Keep up on those great dates you say you are going out on.

Answer 10

Try to find another lover.Don't love him if you know he is a liar.

Try to move on and find a man. Good luck.

Answer 11

I know you do, but as women we get so sucked in and we love so much harder than men. Just take some time to do you and surround yourself with good HONEST girlfriends that will kick you in the butt if you try to go back to him. He is always going to deal with the mom of his kids if they are together or not. She will always be in his life and if he is that big of a scum bag he will not stop sleeping with her. Trust me..been there done that.

We always think we can change people, but we can't!

Answer 12

forgetting about the way you feel for him will not be easy and i am not going to say that it will be. honestly you need to let nature take its course as cheesy as that may sound. you need to let yourself get over him. in the meantime go get your hair done get a new outfit and go out with your girlfriends for the night. you will be surprised what a new look and a night out can do to help a broken heart.

good luck sweetie!!!