How do I regain my confidence?

Question

Before I entered high school, my life was fantastic. I was funny and out-going, and always the life of the party. And despite my big thighs and flabby belly, in one year I had 7 guys ask me out! Plus, my friends were there for me, and I loved them unconditionally. Then high school came.

When I joined the volleyball team and started spending more time with my team than my friends, my friends got mad at me and stopped talking to me. Along with all the boys that were once interested in me. Because of that, my confidence plummited and I was paranoid that everywhere I went people were talking about me. I cried myself to sleep almost every night, and I just wasn't myself anymore. The paranoia from my old friends spread to overall paranoia. I kept thinking everyone I walked by was judging me, or completely ignoring my existance.Over time, the paranoia began to drain and I made a few new friends. However, even now my self-esteem has yet to come back. I am still overweight and unconfident. I havent even had a crush on a guy in months because I dont think guys will ever notice me again. All I want is someone to come along and love the things about me that make me so unhappy now. I want my sophomore year to be the year for me to get back on my feet. But I know that will only happen when I start to love myself. I just dont know how to do that.

Answer 1

What you need babe is a good /hug :) and someone good to listen to ur problems. If you feel ur problems are alittle too much to bare.. go speak to your quawk ( your doctor ) lol and get some help. Its a long road babe and theres no time for crying and unhappy thoughts, I say this dispite been depressed myself. But one day there is someone for everyone, sending night after night in your place wont do you no good. Go for a wonder ( walk ) and find a place beatiful and some where that makes you feel beautiful, take a deep breath while there and clear ur mind... hope you get better /hug (-_Dark Light_-)

Answer 2

appologise to your old firends and go and make new ones at the same time!

look seriously everyone isnt judging you, they are too buisy judging themselves! if you need proof of this then think about what you are thinking of when you walk down a school hall.

you are thinking about what everyone else is thinking about you right? well do you know what they are thinking about?

they are thinking about what YOU think of THEM!!!!!

just talk to people.

you dont like shy people initially right? then dont be shy!

you dont like loud mouths who dont listen right? then dont be a loud mouth!

you dont like rude people initially right? then dont be rude!

you dont like people who are constantly negitive right? then dont bo so negitive all the time!

im not saying that you cant learn to love everyone, but it makes it allot harder if they are intially practising antisocial behaviour like that listed above! over time you maye learn to love someone for who they are, as people may have learned to love you in the past but its a lot harder if they are being a******s in the beginning!

d**n i wish i had realised this in highschool, life would have been so much easyer!

its true: fisrt impressions really do count!

stop worrying about what the other people think of you and go ou there and show them what you want them to think about you!

SHOW EVERYONE WHO YOU ARE!

if you act shy they will think you are shy.

if you are allways loud they will think you are a loud mouth

if you are s****. people will think you are rude

if you allways put yourself or others down people will think you are a negitive person

show them what you want to be! most people havnt formed opinions about you yet so be who you want them to think you are!

think about what you like in people.

you like people who are friendly,

people who listen,

people who accept you no matter what,

people who are kind,

people who like you,

people who arnt affraid of you!

people who smile at you

people who talk to you like you really matter to them!

do this to people and they will like you. garunteed =)

Answer 3

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it's worth a shot!

Answer 4

Real lovers love each other for their inner beauty not outer. People haven't open their eyes and hearts. In the word 1 out of every 1000 people are thinking about you all the time. It's just a matter of finding a person who likes you for who YOU ARE NOT HOW YOU  LOOK. True beauty comes from within. Remember that.