How do I respond to msgs/flirts from guys online dating?

Question

I am new to this and I haven't responded to anyone yet. I just set up my profile yesterday, and I have 14 guys interested in me and they have sent me messages. I sent a flirt to a guy I am interested in and he said yes back to me to show mutual interest, and he sent me a message yesterday saying "hey, how are you?" and that's it. I don't know exactly what to say back to him. I don't want to seem too forward or too boring. This is really frustrating!

I'm also trying to play it cool. Not necessarily following the "rules" per se, but not wanting to seem desperate or anything either.

Anyone out there that has or is dating online, please give me your input.

By the way, I checked out his myspace page (secretly of course), and he has lot of the same interests that I do: volunteering, classic cars, movies, social and political issues...and he wasn't being a player on there, which was refreshing...

We're both 35, I'm divorced and I am cautious about meeting men online so i do get that aspect.

Answer 1

I'm happy to read that you are being cautious as well you should be.

On-line dating, is still fairly new, and the rules, are not written down well.

For now, just talk about your common interests.Tell him yours and ask him about his. No need to tell  him about your visit to his My-Space bio.

That could be true, or not. Does he live close by, if not, then just consider him a pen pal.It will at least give you some practice on chatting on line.

Just remain cautious, safety first. Give out as little personal information as you can. Just things like, your height, age, marital status, etc. How many kids if any, and ask about his.

So just take it slow and easy, as for the rest of the hits, just ignore those you don't care for. If you don't reply, they will just move on to the their next victim, oops, I mean date.

Answer 2

This is how I would respond.

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