I have been emailing back and forth with a lady who is like a mother to me (her husband grew up with my mom), and whose son is one of my best friends. He's in the Marines and is in California right now, and he got married just after getting back from basic training in 2004. His wife was living in California also, and while he was temporarily stationed elsewhere she got into some pretty serious trouble for child neglect. They let her move back to Montana, and she is now living with her parents and has their three children (3, 2, and 8 months) there, also.
She's living in the same community as my friend's parents, and they are pretty much raising their grandkids because she won't even so much as feed them. My friend is supporting her entire family, and while they own their own house, that leaves his money to pay all the bills. His wife has no ambition to get a job, nor does her family, and she refuses to take care of her children. He knows about this, and is going to deal with it when he gets home in 18 months, but in the mean time both him and his mom are leaning heavily on me for support.
In the email she sent me last night, she said, "I really wish he had married you instead." I'm married, with children... and while I love my friend dearly, having practically grown up together makes that even more awkward. I don't know how to respond to that, or if I should just pretend that she didn't say it! With all that's going on and the stress she's under, I don't want to upset her more... so what do you think?
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