How do I say no to something my husband wants to do without breaking his heart?

Question

My hubby is wanting to take a fishing trip. well before this trip would start we will be with family for 2 days and i know i will want to come home to rest. he really has his heart set on taking this fishing trip with me and his kids but how do i tell him i don't want to go? we go camping and stuff all the time i hope this one time wouldn't hurt him.

Answer 1

This is where you and your hubby should have a very good understanding about things like this.  Tell him you are not feeling this trip this time around.  And he and the kids should go and have a good time.  

But make sure you make it up to him before he leaves and after he gets back.

Answer 2

Tell him it will be a good time for him to enjoy with the kids. They probably are looking forward to spending time with him alone.

Answer 3

How close are you to your husband? Why do you need to ask on a message board how to tell him you are going to be too wiped out to go on a fishing trip with thim?

Seems pretty simple to me.

Answer 4

Sorry to say but marriage is about sacrifice. You sound like you know that not going on this trip will hurt his feelings. So just do what all wives do and go on the trip just to see him smile.  

Answer 5

I'm guessing you're either rather the introvert, or there is some family drama.  Since it only takes the family 2 days to wear you out.  I'm also going to guess it's your family, because otherwise I think you would have mentioned it's his.

You will lose a couple of "points" with him as it were, if he needs the companionship.  It should only be awkward if he really thinks this is something special for some reason.  Just make it up to him.  

First thing is, let him know your concerns

Could you just postpone it for a week?  If that means extra driving, well, that's what compromise is about.

Or do it before you visit the family.

Or ask him if he is willing to handle *everything* during the trip, so that you can decompress and just enjoy yourself for a change.

There just seem to be a lot of choices here that don't involve saying "go without me".

Answer 6

Tell him straight out....Do not expect him to pick up hints or you will go madder than h**l because he did not get it and he will go not knowing why in the heck you are so mad.....Communication it is key

Answer 7

Be honest & tell him how you feel,& maybe the fisshing trip can be postponed.

Answer 8

Just talk to him.  He'll understand and you will work our a compromise.  It's nice that you care about his feelings.

Answer 9

Men don't get broken hearted out of this kind of stuff!

Just tell him you don't want to go this time.

Say...Honey, I go with you on other camping and other outdoor events all the time, but right now I don't feel like going on this fishing trip.    

I would like to stay ______________, and I would want you to go and have a great time with _________.  

It's no big deal.  He's a big boy.

Answer 10

I would go on the trip and spend a lot of time resting. But then, I like camping.

Answer 11

If you and your husband have a good, understanding relationship then I don't see what the problem is, but you better tell him how you feel about it before it is too late.