How do I search for a child that was put up for adoption 19 yrs ago?

Question

How do I search for a child that was put up for adoption 19 yrs ago?

Answer 1

Here's a good free site.  My sister just found the daughter she put up for adoption 20 years ago through this site.

http://www.adopteeconnect.com/browse.htm

Answer 2

You can't. I was put up for adoption 3 days after i was born, and for 32 years my birth mom tried everything to find me and there was no way. She even tried getting a job at the Childrens Services to maybe make it easier to find me. You have to wait for the child to find you. If they know they are adopted they will look for ya eventually, just try and have patience. I know it is easier said than done, right?

Answer 3

I answered a question similar for someone else except theirs was about a birthparent.  I just copied it, but it has some helpful information.  Just substitute the word adoptee for birthparent.

       As someone adopted, I have to tell you it will be hard if it was a closed adoption. This means all my information from my birth until my parents got me is pretty much kept secret. I know it sounds bad, but that's because it is. The hospital I was born at told me they have no record of me being born. This is mainly because I was born with a different name, and I don't know what name my birthmother may have given me or what her last name was. If they search under the name I have now, it won't be found. I have very little information on my birthparents. It makes me angry and sad at the same time that they took this crucial information away from me. The first thing you probably want to do is find out if they have a state adoption registry where you live and put his name on it. The next thing is to go to the adoption agency and apply to get all non-identifying information they can give you on the birthfamily. Mine was okay, but not compared to others. It will tel you basically height, ages, weight, talents, siblings or the birthparents and a little more if they have it. They will even tell you if the family has been looking for him. If it's been a month and you have no match on the registry and the non-identifying info is not good, I'd look into getting a seach angel. Search angels are people that help those involved in adoption find the family member. They are free of charge. Many of them are involved in adoption themselves and some are not. I am still searching for any bit of information to lead me to anyone in my past. Well, I hope all of this helps. I wish you luck. I know how tough it can be. I just pray that I can have my own family like lots of kids one day to make up for the hereditary part of me that I lost through adoption. Very few states allow adopted children their records once they turn 18. People are still fighting to give the rest of us that right. I continue to pray for it. I wish your fiancee all the best. Tell him not to give up. It may seem difficult at times but not impossible.

PS

If it was a closed adoption, do not expect to get any names.

Answer 4

I'm trying to find out the same thing,mine was 27 years ago though.....good luck to you!

Answer 5

I need more info. on this ! Was there an adoption agency. Do you know his/her name now?. Was there a  family Dr. involved ?

Answer 6

I am in the middle of adopting 4 boys, and this is what we were told...

In MICHIGAN:  To ensure privacy on both cases (the birthmom and the children involved) both files are sealed.  No information comes out.

In order for the birth mother to find the boys, she has to wait until the boys are of age (which is 18).

She would then go to the agency where she signed off on them (or where her rights were terminated), and place her name on a list, saying that she is open to contact.

If  the boys are interested in finding out about their birthmom, they will go to the agency and find her name on the list of moms wishing to be contacted.

If the boys are not interested in finding the birth mom, then there is nothing the birth mom can do.

Chances are, if your child knows that he/.she is adopted,  they will be looking for you.  Get your name on that list and Good Luck!

Answer 7

Go to the adoption agency.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

try the website      find-people-instantly.com

Answer 9

Go to this site to check out your states laws regarding adoption search and reunion.  

http://local.reunion.adoption.com/

Each state has a different age from 18-25 for what they consider an adult.  Many states have confidential intermediary programs and registries.  Sign up with as many as you can.  Register with

www.isrr.net  NOT isrr.com (paid site)

Good luck in your search

Answer 10

go to peoplesearch

Answer 11

I recently found my son's web page just using Google with different search terms and his birth date. The page had been there since 2000, but I had never used the term "adopted" before in my search.

Contact the adoption agency and ask for the non-identifying information.  That turned out to be some key information for me to verify that this was indeed my son prior to contacting him (although the photo of him made it obvious since he looks like me).  Place your name and information on all the adoption search registries.  There are now search angels who have access to databases that you may not think of and they can help as well.

I should add that you should look and ignore advice not to.  Oftentimes, it is because BOTH are looking that they find each other, but you often have more information than the adoptee has.  Be sure to include information in other states especially California because families often moved there for jobs.  I was fortunate that my son's family never left the state, but I had.

Answer 12

Try signing up with the group (I can't think of the name right now) that puts biological parents and their adopted children to get in touch with each other. My daughter was adopted at age 2, but 5 years ago we found each other again. It was a blessing from God. I will add you to my prayer circle and you will have thousands of people praying that you find your child. God Bless You, and good luck.  If it is supposed to happen, it will.  When you finally find them, you will experience feelings that you have never felt before. I wish you all the best.

Answer 13

Try the agency that took her when you put the child up. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!