How do I spend more time with my girlfriend?

Question

We both have really busy schedules between work and school. She's in classes all day and by the time she gets out around 5 pm, I start work at 5 or 6-ish. I don't get home until late, and by that time she's doing labwork or writing a paper and becomes frustrated with her lack of time to finish her work and see me. The situation has caused a few arguments because we both want to spend time together but it gets so difficult. College is her priority and I feel somewhat neglected but at the same time, she's only available whenever I'm not. How do we compromise? Am I stuck just seeing her on the weekends?

Answer 1

Hey babe,

responding to this is a little cheesy but i want to anyways.  I know we don't get a lot of time together and my stress over classes and grad school as well as the fact that I don't really want to be here puts a damper on the time we do get during the week.  You also come in with complaints a lot of the time (and you never leave when I need you to) so sometimes it was just easier for me to be more melancholy alone, I don't want to be a burden.  The combination of your rehearsal conflicts yet you blaming my schedule and that you never seemed satisfied with the time we did have together also played a factor in my unhappiness.  But baby, I love you and I know I can be resistant to PDA and revealing any sort of dependency on someone, but I do need you.  I'm trying - we both are - to make sure the other person is happy.  But sometimes there just won't be time, so we have to look forward to when there will be instead of adding to the stress with complaints (we both do this, not just you).  I'm glad we got some public opinion, but what really matters is our own communication.

Okay, this whole thing is super cheesy and very public - two things outside my comfort level - but (here comes the best part) i'd do anything for you  

Answer 2

Its all about compromising.  both of you need to compromise to see things work. If College is her priority maybe dating is not a good idea until later.  you can send emails or letters. Maybe going out for breakfast or bring her lunch.  Long relationships are hard.  Trust me I was in japan for a year while my b.f. was in the U.S. but now we are married so it can work but you both have to compromise something.

Answer 3

It's good that you recognize that her priortiy is school. Be happy you get the weekends, rather than nothing at all . Make the best of it!

Answer 4

make an extra point to see her on weekends.. and maybe text her and call her during the week.....

School wont be forever ... just do your best to keep the relationship up... and you will be fine.

Schedules are always conflicting but I am sure you can make it through.