How do I stand strong for three weeks?

Question

My boyfriend left to Bolivia today for vacation with his family for three weeks and I'm left here all alone! We were both used to being together every single day! and now that he's gone I don't know what to do. Before he left he told me that he loved me and to take care of myself and not to cry that he didn't want me to cry. I know that three weeks isn't that long but to me its almost a month because my whole world revolves around him!! I can't stop crying everything reminds me of him its like I can't do anything right without him! I miss him soooo much I feel so depressed I don't feel like doiin anything just locking myself in my room till the three weeks are up. We both talked about loosing weight and he told me that when he comes back that if I did loose weight that he would get me a belly ring. We both have also decided to get tattoos, hes goiin to get my name and I'm goiin to get his name on me too. and I'm also suppose to get a job too! he told me to go out and not to be drinking or smoking or drinking my sleeping pills that I always take to go to sleep, he kept repeating about the pills cuz I think that he doesn' t want me to overdose or something. What should I do to keep myself busy? I asked him when we would be able to talk and he said that he would let me know and would write me on myspace or by email on Monday and I'm already cryng my heart out and I can't breathe!!! please help me!

Thanks

Armida

Answer 1

Sounds like a unhealthy relationship to me. Honestly get over it because if you plan to spend the rest of your life together this wont be the only time you'll be separated.

Answer 2

Okay, I am a little concerned for you.  If you truly are a stable person than 3 weeks would not be so devastating. Of course you will miss him, but your life should not be at the brink of falling apart. I would suggest you use this time to get some professional help for yourself , you have nothing to lose but in time a more fulfilling life for you and your boyfriend. You really need to have more things in life just for you. so you have your own identity and interests. I am wondering how old you are and if you are at an age when you could get a job and become interested in life not just your boyfriends' life.  Please consider professional counselling, you really do need help and there is no shame in that.  All the best to you and good luck !

Answer 3

First, don't EVER make a man the center of your life. That just invites doormat treatment. Second, don't ever get a mans name tatooed on your body unless it's YOUR child's name. You never know if this guy is the one you will be with forever (and over hte years, forever has become a LOT shorter) and you will end up with a permanent reminder iof him. Third, go get that job, find yourself a hobby or ask your friends to keep you busy (you DO have friends, right?). The time will fly & he'll be back before you know it.  

Answer 4

I haven't been able to see/ talk to/ or email my boyfriend for eleven weeks.  I know that you miss him, but he loves you and he WILL come back.  Try not to cry and think just about that.  Broaden your horizons... get out of the house, listen to music, hang out with other friends, find a new hobby, take a walk- something you like to get your mind off of him.  Don't stay in your room until he gets back.  Life is short- enjoy it and it will make him happy to know that he doesn't have to worry about you being depressed while he is gone.  Its natural to miss him, but don't let that consume you.  My thoughts are with you... Stay strong my friend        

Answer 5

Focus that energy on turning out some positive things that will improve your relationship.   He will be so surprised and happy to see you, and these can be some special perks!   Make a list on the things you want to do while he is gone that you can share with him once he is back and then get busy!  Go outside and take a walk, get some exercise, you can loose a few pounds in 3 weeks.  This will help you sleep, give you more energy, and improve your looks.  Go find a great outfit.  Learn how to cook a fabulous dish so you can make dinner for him when he's back.  Forget the tats and the piercings...that is so yesterday... You need to focus on attitude, your smile, and looking your best for him and yourself.  Getting a job helps with identity...he will love telling everyone he's dating the girl that works at.....   Good luck and enjoy yourself... 3 weeks goes really fast and you have a lot to do...  you will be making him really proud... so get busy!

Answer 6

You could go out with your friends, and hit up the local gym to achieve your goal :) working out will hopefully get your mind off of things. and also try to get that job you were thinking about. having something to do will help you keep your mind off of him. just be patient :) he will come back :)

good luck :)