How do I stand up to people (who don't respect me), & try to be assertive without confusion starting?

Question

Some nights, my friend spends the night @ my house when I'm experiencing an emotional crisis, & she's there to help me with my deep breathing & relaxation that my counselor has me doing with CBT. Well, my friend's 18-yr. old bratty sister tags along with her EVERYWHERE she goes, & when my friend tells her to go away, she raises h**l! The girl has ADHD & Bipolar.

I'm 24, & my friend is 29. She's also my mentor. Anyway, both me & my friend give in to this girl's wants or else she goes insane. She's a freeloader who's trying to come live with me, & she doesn't even like me. She's a trouble-maker.

I hate when @ night, around 3 AM I get up to use the bathroom, & she's locked up in there having s*x with a random guy. I get really upset, & she doesn't even care if I p**s my pants. She & the guy make me feel unwelcome in my own house.

I don't want to lose my friend. I NEED her here. I have no one else for support. No family, NOBODY!

Answer 1

She's an 18 year old nasty tramp.  A rude and disrespectful one at it.

First of all she should not be letting random men into your house at 3a.m. or really EVER!!!!!!!!!!!  You do not know what these men are capable of.  Stealing, robbing, raping, scoping out your place for future.  Stealing bank info, identity info, etc.  Falling and suing you, etc.  I know sounds crazy but it does happen.  And you need to sit down and teach the little tramp about that.  

She is young, 18, and needs to mature and grow.

I would make it a point to her sister that she needs to stay home with mommy and daddy and keep her pants UP.

Answer 2

sure you dont want to lose a friend, but you also dont want to lose your power and rights of your own house. you need to grow a backbone and say "look i'm not gonna tolerate this anymore, this is my house and you abide by my rules and have some respect. if not, get the h**l out!!"

you are not seeing that YOU are allowing this to happen.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your friend and tell her that her sister cannot tag along and come over there any more.

Then ignore her sister like she doesn't exist, do not talk to her, do not look at her.  You can call the cops and report her as a tresspasser if you want to.  Or get a restraining order against her if it is that bad.

If your friend takes it personally, then she is not your friend.  Friends care about each other, it's time for her to grow up and let her sister grow up too.  

You do not have to allow people into your home that you do not want in there.  I would have physically taken her to the door and locked her out long ago.

Answer 4

I would start looking for another friend. Friends don't let friends pee in their pants.