My husband and I worked for the same firm for a bit of time, but I quickly realized that the 3 hours a day in the car commuting, 12-16 hour work days, and verbal abuse from supervisors was making me a broken and bitter woman, so I quit to find a more satisfying job (which I have).
My husband worked in a different division and never seemed to have problems. He loved his work and his coworkers. Until now. He has been working 80-100 hour work weeks, travels every other week, has to manage coworkers that have higher positions than he does, and is all around miserable at work.
It's not just at work either. We talk a lot during the day and of course, when he returns home at night. He is no longer the man I married. I try to do nothing but support him, but no matter what I do or say, he is always angry at me. I know that this is a direct function of his work life and I have asked him if he would consider finding a new job, but he seems to think that his current job is his only option. He is incredibly intelligent and works in a booming field, so I have no doubt he could find another position that pays the same, if not more.
The problem is, all of his angry and demeaning behavior at home has rubbed off on me quite a bit. I have been more moody than usual and slightly depressed. I usually don't have a problem taking constructive criticism at work, but lately it has been agitating me. I have become defensive and, dare I say, even a bit rude. This is not who I am at all and I am very unhappy that I have been acting this way.
I know that my husband's career path is his decision, but does anyone have any suggestions on how I can prevent his dissatisfaction at work from affecting my behavior?
Note: Please do not suggest divorce. I love my husband very much and though he is angry when he gets home (he is not abusive, so please don't read into it that way), I know that he still loves me very much.
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