How do I stop being jealous?

Question

I was sick for two days then when I returned from school my so called friends already had a replaced me, they were crazy over this girl and how funny and cool she is, wtf. And my other friend whom I am very close to has been angry and aggressive and irritated all week, and she is just so different. Now she and my other friend are sleeping over at each others house all the time. They have this thing were they just push all the other out, and it just pisses me off. And I’m in a different class than all my other friends and when it’s break time, they always tell me how hard they laughed, how much fun they had, it’s like they’re smothering it in my face. And I hate it b/c it’s so unfair they get to have all the fun, while I have to sit one side and do all the work. Call me selfish I don’t care, call me jealous yes I am. B/c this is bullshit. My best friend is abandoning me, trading me in for a better funnier friend, and they are all pushing me out and then talking about how much fun they had right in front of me. My life sucks I hate my ******* life. And when one of my friends is holding a sleepover I can’t go b/c her mother hates me b/c I wore shorts once. Wtf!

Then there was this thing with a concert and my other friend couldn’t go, so I told my best friend I would pay for her ticket so long until she can come. So I would go instead. Then my best friend was all like no you don’t have to go, if you don’t want to. Like she doesn’t want to go with me, and then I just want to yell at her its not about me wanting to go, it’s about spending time with you, which I don’t get to do anymore b/c you are always hanging out with the other one. Wtf. Then I had a sleepover at my house once and then no one could come b/c why would they be able to, it was at my house. It’s so ******* stupid I don’t know what to do anymore. This is just the final straw and I’ve just had enough.

Only mature answers please

Answer 1

Oh im really sorry about what your going through. I say you should just...okay im not sure that you would want to do this...but....get new friends.

If these friends are acting like this then they ARENT true friends, anymore.

You wore shorts once so your mom hates you? Umm...maybe you could just apologize for it and then she wont be mad at you anymore...

Then you can get some new friends or something.

Just talk to people that you didn't talk a lot to before. Maybe they are really nice and you will get along with them well.

I understand why you are jealous/mad/sad about whats going on.

And i am also really sorry that no one came to your sleepover.

You seem really nice so im sure youll get new friends SUPER easily...

I know that you want to hang out with your old best friends but if they aren't willing to do that then just keep it cool with them. What you DONT want to do is start a fight.

I think that you should keep it cool with your friends but remember that they arent being very nice.

Maybe if you crawl away from them they will want to be friends with you again. Play hard to get.

If they want to be your friends again then you can be like Sure. But hang out with different people so they will understand how YOU felt.

Now i dont give a c**p if i get best answer for this or not i just want this to help you cant i also want you to msg me if you need anymore help or if anything else happened that your friends did.

I hope that helps BUNCHES!

Answer 2

I take it you're quite young. One thing you will learn is that friends come and friends go, it is rare for people to be friends forever. People change over time and one needs to accept that. There is nothing stopping you from making new friends is there?

  Jealousy generally comes from insecurity and low self-esteem. As such it is always self-defeating. If your best friend has been treating you this way, then likely she wasn't your best friend in the first place. I can understand your hurt and I feel bad for you; I've had the same thing happen more than once. I learned that one just has to move on.

Answer 3

Find some new friends.  Join a team sport or a club.  You'll have fun and meet lots of new peeps who won't tool you around like these girls are.  Or you could hang out with dudes..

Good luck my dear!

Answer 4

You're obviously young and young gals often act this way. You probably don't want to hear this, but try to widen your circle of friends. Friendship isn't marriage and there's nothing saying you can't hang out w/ other people who may appreciate you more and you them.