How do I stop being so obsessed?

Question

I'm begging you help me stop being obsessed with a celebrity!! He's all I think about and it's ruining my life! I feel like I'll never love a real guy because I only will be happy with this celebrity. I know I probably have issues or something or else I would not be obsessed with this person, so I need to get over him before this ruins my life even more. He is a singer and very popular so it's not easy to just avoid where his music or picture is. Oh and please don't say "don't worry you will get over it" because that's not going to help me I need to get over this asap before it gets worse.

Answer 1

Its okay think of another person

Answer 2

find a guy  

Answer 3

I bet its a Jonas.

I'm totally obsessed with Harry Potter, but I was a social reject anyways so I don't really try to stop.

Answer 4

Completely normal we have all been obsessed including me. It's so easy to become obsessed these days especially when the men in reality are a let down to say the very least. You have to realize that the fantasy you have in your mind is just that, a fantasy. In real life this guy may be a total loser and you must distinguish between reality and your imagination. Ppl develop obsessions with ppl when life lets us down and it gives us an escape, problem is the guy could be as big a waste of space as everday men but this is what you created and remember in your imagination it's all hearts and flowers but in real life there are weeds. Keep the fantasy and hope you dont meet him because I met my obsession and he turned out to be dumb, lifeless and completely lacking in warmth. He was a cold fish with a huge ego and I feel so stupid for building him up in my mind, but glad for the lesson I learnt.

Answer 5

whois the lucky one ??

Answer 6

who is it?

Answer 7

sorry to say you will get over it. god i know what its like ive been there many times and im only sixteen but it definitly will go away. you could always try finding a boyfriend though if you find a good guy that would definitly get rid of the obsession. hope i helped you out.

Answer 8

First good thing is you admit it's a problem.  And if you feel it's that bad, i'd go see a counselor.  And seeing a counselor doesn't have those bad conotations it used to have.  It's okay - go talk to someone who can help you with it.  Obsessions don't necessarily "just go away" but it also could be that it's not as bad as you think.  But you won't find your answer on here - go talk to a professional.  You could start with your parents, a pastor or similar clergy (if you're religious), etc.  Teenagers don't have the answers, go talk to someone who is trained to deal with this and you could be well on your way to getting over someone you'll probably never meet anyway and get back on track to a healthy life.

Answer 9

Let go?

Answer 10

You have to blank your mind out,

come up with a thought like something simple and meaningless, like a bunch of rabbits hopping around in a circle chanting for rain,, and the stupid thought you come up with can be triggered only when that celebrity pops into your mind,  I promise you, it works but takes training.

Answer 11

Give it time.. it will pass.

Answer 12

Ignore this celebrity.

Go out with friends, flirt and you do this in the long term, things will take their way and you will be OK.  Sometime you will find someone real to love him and love you.

Answer 13

I have been in exactly the same position as you many times!

You just need to slowly work yourself off him. Get rid of posters you have of him a few at a time, stop spending so much time researching him or listening to his music. Of course you can still enjoy following his career but by allowing yourself less time everyday to think about him should slowly make you less obsessed.

Answer 14

Do you have any idea what celebrities go through?  Do you ever think about how many other people are obsessed with the same celebrity?  Celebrities are forced to hire huge security teams to protect them from stalkers and other obsessed persons who would possibly pose a threat to them.  They keep fan letters on microfilm and store voice recordings because celebrities have lost their lives due to some crazed persons inability to get them out of their mind.  You must know that your obsession is a dream world you have created for yourself and that your happiness is not truly dependent on this celebrity.  Do you like the idea of being lumped with the group of people who cannot distinguish reality from fiction?  Most celebrities are not who they appear to be in public, anyway.  It's great to fantasize about being with some famous person but if that is all you can think about, you may need to get some professional help.  And you may miss out on the real thing if you don't start socializing and give someone else a chance.  

Answer 15

get out of the house more often and socialise, keep yourself as occupied as posible,so you won´t have any time to daydream btw who is he?