How do I stop missing someone that I had to leave because of their drug addiction?

Question

I was with a man for over 10 yrs. We had so many good times and alot of not so. I stayed with him-we built a home together-our dogs were like brothers-but he developed a raging addiction to meth and I tried everything to get him to stop, without success. I felt there was no other way than to cut ties. I am so sad without him and my dog sits and looks at me like "Why are you doing this to me?" He loved it there as did I - I think about him all the time-but I know to have stayed would have been extremely unhealthy in more ways than one. He has since gotten 10 times worse with the drugs and refuses to admit its the problem. Its the hardest thing I have ever had to do -stay away. Did I do the right thing? I tried for 5 years to get him off of the dope.It was dragging me down.

Answer 1

From my own experience, you really did the right thing. I know that it is hard, but you can't fight his demons for him. You will always have a soft spot for him, but unfortunately he loves the drugs more than life itself. You should be more proud than down on yourself, it takes alot of strength to do what you did. He made it before without you, he can make it again. Keep strong, you need to think of your own life, but also the people who love you, they don't want to see you go through this.

Answer 2

if he had loved u then he would have given up the meth for u so u did the right thing just meet new people

Answer 3

Just watch re-runs of COPS, and see what your life would be like if you stayed.  

Answer 4

Had a similar situation for 5 years with an ex. You did the right thing by leaving but you didn't exactly "cut ties" if you are still after getting this guy to quit. I know it is hard but you need to let go and stop worrying about people who don't worry about themselves. I know it hurts to hear but sometimes, when people are at their lowest, you just have to let them fall. Sometimes, thats the only way they can every look up. Hang in there, you'll get through this, and so will your dog. You did whats best.  

Answer 5

i think you did the right thing. being with someone with that kind of addiction is hard to deal with, but with time, you will slowly move on. i know it hurts to see someone go through their life doing things such as drugs, but he is the only one who can allow himself to change. although it was very nice of you to help him, it's best you aren't involved in his situation (i know that it would have drug you down further). you should just try to meet new people and don't dwell on the past. i know it's easier to say than do, but at least try. just give yourself time and enjoy those who are presently in your life, like family and friends. when people struggle, sometimes you just have to let them deal with it on their own to grow and learn from their mistake(s).