How do I stop my 3 year old from cussing?

Question

My 3 year old went over to his daddy's house and heard his uncle say fuc* and s**+* and now he has an obsession with these words. He knows they are bad words and says them whenever he is mad or in trouble. I have gotten on to him for saying them, telling him that they are bad words then giving time-outs, spankings, and just ignoring it. But when I get on to him he just sits there and yells them louder and louder the same occurs when I ignore it.What can I do? I have had a discussion with his dad and he told me it was the uncle and that he would make sure that he wouldn't hear those words again but the damage is already done!! Please help!!

Answer 1

thats hard to break, just make sure you and the father dont cuss around him, hopefully he'll eventually just forget about the words!.. i HATE it when someone cusses infront of my 1 year old, isnt it so rude ?

Answer 2

smack him every time he says it... doing something he doesn't like to him will get him to stop... if that doesn't work... two words: DUCT TAPE!! ROFL

Answer 3

Ignoring it is the only way that you can get him to stop. By spanking him or giving him any form of attention is reinforcing the behavior. When you extinguish a behavior there is a concept called the extinction burst, which means that the behavior will increase, possibly double, in hopes of getting reinforcement. Once he learns that it won't be reinforced then he'll stop. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Answer 4

could try the old "washing the mouth out with soap" trick.. It worked on me when i was little. :o)

Answer 5

It sounds like an attention getting thing at this point.  I know this sounds hard, but try ignoring it completely instead of attaching importance to it.  At the same time, make sure to give praise and attention in moments where he is sitting quietly playing or any other little moments where it might be appropriate.  Also, have a discussion with both father and uncle about the situation and let them know that you would prefer it if they 'try' to use more appropriate language around the child.

Answer 6

Take away things he really likes. And keep doing what you'r doing. Reinforce that saying those words are bad and something good kids do NOT do. Youre child is just stubborn, and you just need to be more stubborn than him.

Keep it up!

V

Answer 7

A little soap won't hurt, but perhaps you can try this. Tell them if they behave themselves you'll put a nickle in a jar. When they misbehave then THEY will take a nickle out of the jar.   You can easily use this for any misbehavior including the bad language.  

Answer 8

Use something on his tongue every time he does it.  

Cider Vinegar, Tabasco sauce, something that he does not like the taste of.

Plus taking away privileges. Eventually he will stop.

Answer 9

first every time he curses take away one of his favorite toys,snacks,etc.

yelling and spankings may help but take away things that matter to him and dont give them back until he hasnt cursed for  a week or 2.

Answer 10

I had this problem with my son and he would also use those words when he was angry or did something bad.  We would never let him know that those were bad words, instead everytime he would say a bad word we would replace it with another word, for example "oh no" or "oops" and try to make those words sound cool and make a big deal when we where trying to replace the word by saying it really loud.  We had trouble with his uncle also, I had to tell him that we didn't like that kind of language around our kid.  Don't make a big deal about it when he says them because when they know it has some sort of effect on you they do it more.  Pretend like you didn't hear anything and don't make him feel bad about it just be persistent and he will change.  Good luck!

Answer 11

Wash his mouth with soap.  It will def work, trust me.