How do I stop my 4 year old??????

Question

My son keeps touching little boys willys in class.

It started on friday when he was in the toilets at school and he touched his friend willy.

Then today he has pinched a little boy there.

I dont want to make a huge deal about this but obviously school and the parents will.

how can I make him stop

Answer 1

Lots of little boys do this. Tell him that other people are not allowed to touch his body. Tell him that HE is not allowed to touch OTHER people's body. Explain to him that it is very rude to touch someone else there, and that he is being rude by doing it.

Answer 2

Tell him that some things are private and he can't touch other people like he would touch himself.  My son who is now 8 did the same thing with b***s - I told him that touching other people in their private places was wrong - i didn't tell him he was naughty I just explained that it's not nice and he shouldn't do it and I would be cross if he did it again.  I think he was about 4 too.

Answer 3

Tell him that willies are private and not to touch other boy's willies, and also pinching is wrong as it hurts.  Try not to make too big a deal of it, definitely don't make him feel a sense of shame about it but just matter of factly explain that he has to stop it.

BTW don't feel too bad about it yourself, children are often very curious at this age, it's quite normal.

Answer 4

Scold him and tell him it is wrong.  A lot of kids go through a stage like this.  Be consistent and tell him it is wrong.  Talk with him and find out if there is a reason for his sudden interest.

Answer 5

he cant be doing that, just tell him, if he was fighting you would say " its not ok to fight, dont do it blablabla" say the same thing he's probably just doing it because its funny to see the other kids reactions

Answer 6

Tell him about privates. Do not touch other peoples privates.

Tell him in no uncertain terms that it is wrong to touch anyone on their privates. Ask him why he does it and if someone touched his

Answer 7

When I was in kindergarten, i was changing in the bathroom with a friend, and she touched my boob and told me to touch hers.  i told the teacher!  but from then on i always changed in a stall... lol

tell him not to do stuff like that.  and do make a deal out of it.

Answer 8

I guess I think a good spanking might stop this kind of behavior. You must stop this!!

I am sorry but I would make a big deal out of it- he could get kicked out of school for it.

Answer 9

Um, how about letting his teacher know about the situation. 4 year olds shouldn't be alone in the bathroom together, anyway.

Answer 10

in the same way you would any other problem that has arisen.

Don't make to much of it but tell him it's wrong to touch other people on their private parts. My 4 year old understands this so I'm quite sure will most children of a similar age.Be firm but not angry with him.

Answer 11

You need to let him know that is unacceptable and he needs to keep his hands to himself. There should be a punishment everytime he does that. Maybe a Time Out followed by an apology.

Answer 12

Go about it the way you would discipline him about anything else he does which is wrong. Don't make it a massive deal, just tell him no to, or however you discipline your child.

Answer 13

get down on your knees to his level and do not yell at him but tell him nicely that it is wrong and he should not be doing that. if he does it again tell him the same thing and say that you already told him not to do that. then, if he does it a third time, put him in a time-out corner.

Answer 14

i had the same problem with my daughter.. she was touching her cousins like that... i dont know where they get it from!! but i spanked her and made sure she knew it was wrong and that she dont do that kinda stuff..she did things like that when she was about 4 and she is now 6 the last problem i had with her was when she would sit on my husbands lap (step father) she would put her hand on his *****  intentionally.. it made him very uncomfortable and he didnt want her sitting with him... so i called her out on it and it embarrassed her, she keeps her hands to herself now...

Answer 15

lock him a room with some stangers in a bathroom mwa ha ha....

Answer 16

Keep telling him its wrong... a kid in my sons school kept looking at my sons, and even opening the door.... or even trying to share a urinal..      I told him to tell the boy that is wrong to do it, and to stop or else he was goiong to tell the teacher

Answer 17

Hi. Maybe at bath time have a chat about willys and let him lead the conversation.

Make sure you tell him that his is private and only he can touch it, when he wants (Dont want any hang ups in teenage years). Explain that no one else is allowed to touch it and he isnt allowed to touch anyone elses as they are also private.

Keep it light but make sure you get your point across.

Its normal to explore and be curious, dont worry, my four year old and his brother used to be a bit obsessed, typical men.

But it will be ok they understand private at that age.

Good luck.

Answer 18

I would simply let him know that he shouldn't touch anyone elses privates.... Boys or girls. This is also a good time to let him know that only doctors, moms and dads may help/look at his when he needs help or may be sick.

I would also request that an adult be present in the bathroom area any time he goes.

Answer 19

You do need to talk to him (as best you can with a four year old!).  I know this is a horrific thought but maybe you need to find out if he thinks this is acceptable behaviour because someone is doing it to him!

It is probably nothing to worry about as it is quite normal for children to be uninhibited at that age and not understand the social graces and protocols that we as adults grow to understand.

It does however sound like you need to have a chat with him about "touching" and what is wrong touching and what is OK.  That way he will know to come to you if he is being "touched" inappropriately.

He sounds like he is becoming aware of himself and needs to be nurtured and talked with rather than chastised.

Answer 20

My sons have both gone through a stage where they showed it. A four year old might not FULLY understand the topic but they get the jist of it.

I have had the conversation of nobody see's your parts or touches your parts, tell them why ad what to do.

They know that they could get hurt so to say. That Their p***s and bum are off limits to the eyes and hands of anyone, except mom and dad. If they get an owie there it needs to be okay for you to see if they need to go to the doctor.

My four year old now even says I can't look because I don't have one, how would I know it hurts.

Anyway, my point is, let them know it's PRIVATE and not okay. Keep telling them. They will get it.