How do I stop my cats from being mean to each other?

Question

for a long time i had only one cat (topaz) and she got pretty used to being the queen of he house. we recently got a new kitten (pan). Pan always tries to play with topaz and topaz hates it! she snarls at her and hisses and runs away. Pan can't seem to take a hint, even the one time topaz hit her she just bounded right back. now topaz spends a lot of time outside and now whenever she goes out this big tom cat comes and beats her up. her face gets all scratched up and she cant do anything because she was declawed in her front paws. i feel so bad because she gets attacked outside and harassed and rejected inside.

we cant lock up the kitten in a separate room because she has separation issues and totally freaks out. i just want them to get along!!!

Answer 1

Topaz and Pan will get along some day, but, only on their terms. You have to chill out and let nature take it's course. As far as letting Topaz outside, and the tom beating her up? I wouldn't let Topaz out at all. I'm afraid this tom could hurt Topaz real bad someday. Please, keep both of your cats inside all of the time. I have seen cats that were beaten up so bad they were almost dead. Don't let this happen to your cats. Keep them inside, they will be much better off and so won't you.

Answer 2

You might want to try putting the kitten in a crate with Topaz in the room let her sniff and smell the new kitten without feeling her space is being threatened. if that doesn't seem to work put a bed in crate or towel get kittens scent on it then switch the towel for wherever topaz likes to lay so the kitten gets her scent too. it's gonna take time. I have 2 brothers, and one ran away for 2 1/2 weeks i caught him 2 days ago and it's litterally a cat war in my house now. the one who was left behind thinks he owns the house and the other one who was gone for 2 1/2 weeks if protective of food. Other things make sure they have separate litter boxes apart from each other then move them closer together. have 2 food and water bowls apart them move them closer, eventually u should be able to go down to one if u want. they'll work it out. my cats who have never been separated and finally starting to not hiss allll the time, they are still not sleeping together like they used to but they'll come alone eventually,.

Answer 3

I have a cat who was an only cat for almost two years, and when we first got other cats, she didn't tolerate them very well.  If I pet one of the new cats and then went to pet my cat, she'd hiss at me.  But she gradually got used to the other cats.  She still likes her space, but she enjoys watching the other cats and does just fine.  

Totally separating the cats wouldn't really help, and as you have seen, letting Topaz spend most of her time outside doesn't work either.  Just spend plenty of time with each cat so they will both feel loved and accepted by you.  As time goes on, Pan will get older and should settle down a bit, and Topaz will get used to having her around.  After a while they should learn to tolerate each other and be OK.  Just don't expect them to become good friends, because that may not ever happen.

Answer 4

Quit letting Topaz out to be beaten up by the neighborhood bully.  Topaz and Pan will work it out.  It just takes some time.

Answer 5

You might be knowing that cats sleep a lot....

Take this as a help to erase  the enimity between the two pets.Make a whole lot of delicious cat food and feed both,specially more to Topaz.

Kitten Pan; kitten are prone to play more.Keep it isolated from Topaz and entertain him with toys like balls, rubber articles, small ropes,... This will make him control is freakness when alone.

The reason why the 2 pets are not getting together is due to basic laws of nature, Struggle for existence & Surrvival of Fittest..... Topaz is jealous of Pan. Topaz must be male... right? Males are violent.

It will take much time for those two to get together.. But they will.

**Keep an eye on Topaz.**

Love to Pan & Topaz. Good luck.