How do I stop self-sabotage?

Question

I have a self-sabotaging nature I haven't been able to change. I really want to change this, but every time I try, I s***w myself over. How do I stop this cycle?

Answer 1

Hey

See a psychiatrist, you'll thank yourself for it :)

Answer 2

i have had that issue in the past, and i say just embrace it, and then start seeing a psychologist. you can't get yourself out of a destructive cycle like that on your own.  

Answer 3

see a therapist

Answer 4

Stop hitting yourself...stop hitting yourself

Answer 5

Our life is acutally built by habbits, your self-sabotage is a habbit...you can only change this by not doing this...it's as simple as this!  For example when one does a thing in his life, and does it again, and again, after a while it becomes automatic (like wearing socks) you just know you have to wear them...and this is a habbit!  Now for those habbits that you want to quit it's the same formula...You STOP doing it, and then you don't do it again, and you continue to not do it and eventually it breaks away from your bad habbits until it's something you no longer do... And even if you fail in the middle and do the bad habbit..don't give up their...continue along and don't do it again and again and again, but eventually persistence will always win....hope this helps, It really works

Answer 6

i know what you mean, because i do too. it's almost like an addiction

see a psychologist, i've been with one before and it helps a lot, really. group therapy is really helpful...

Answer 7

go have some hypnosiss sessions to find out why do you do this...

Answer 8

Stop, Review, assimilate.  Why do you hate yourself.

Answer 9

You might stop second-guessing yourself!

At the moment you’re caught in self-fulfilling prophesies. It seems (historically) that every time you’ve started out to do something it’s ended in failure. So the critic in you pounces on the available ‘evidence’ to keep telling you - prophesizing - that you will, once again, not succeed. This creates an inner conflict, generating fear (of failure) and its associated negative emotions.

And eventually you’re under stress.  You behave like a rabbit on the highway caught in the glare of headlights of an onrushing car. It knows it should move but feels paralyzed, unable to stop the inevitable...

Under stress, you just can’t think straight. You’re confused over simple choices, and you persistently second-guess yourself, ending up in repetitive behaviour. That is, you do what you’ve alway done – you panic, you choke, and you fail.

You need to calm yourself down and relax consciously while working on any project. You need to trust your instinct to make the right choices, without feeling that you have to think it out from scratch each time. Remember, intuitive thinking (gut feeling) is the rapid route to successful decision making.

Answer 10

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