How do I stop someone from being obsessed with me?

Question

The guy is unrelenting with his obsession of me. I want it to stop. Its been years now. What can I do to have him leave me alone? I can tell you more, but it would be a book. Just know that it is dragging me down. It is horrible.

Answer 1

If you can stop thinking about it and focus on the rest of your life it would help you a lot. Focus on your strengths, not his weaknesses.

Best wishes. UK

Answer 2

Well, depending on if he works with you - transfer companies.

If he is a friend, you may need to reconsider the friendship.

Also is he obsessed with you in a friendship way or intimate way?

Ultimately though, you need to sit down with him and explain that it makes you uncomfortable and that due to his ongoing behavior that communication between you both may need to be terminated due to you feeling uncomfortable. Also make sure you make your feelings known such as (if it is an intimate situation) "I am aware of how you feel about me and although I am flattered I can not offer you what you deserve."

Or if it is a friendship situation you could state "We have been friends for many years and although I do cherish the times we have had I need some personal space right now."

However despite what you state you do need to make clear that if your wishes are not honored than you can know longer offer the friendship which you have had.

Good Luck! and God Bless!! :)

Answer 3

You may want to advise him about his behavior being unhealthy for the both of you. Check the question about Obsessive Relational Progression for some hints as to what may be going on with him.

If he's "stalking" you, it is probably a good idea to talk to law enforcement in case he gets out of control. You say it's been years. In that case, you might want to look at anything you're doing that might be encouraging to him.

Do you enjoy his attention at all, even a little bit? Make sure you aren't using his attention to bolster your self-confidence and self-esteem in times of emotional trouble.