How do I stop this daydreaming habit?

Question

I usually fantasize with this girl always in my dreams. I always fantasize that I'm her. She's beautiful, popular, rich, ect. I wish I was her so bad... I practically feel like I'm running two lives. I sometimes get frustrated with my life that I feel like I wish I was actually her at that point. I want to stop daydreaming being her all the time and get with my real life, but I can't. I love doing it. It's a chance to escape my real life. How do I stop? Is this normal?

Answer 1

Yes, I think its quite normal. But it's very upsetting for you because it obviously makes you feel bad about yourself! I understand what your going through because sometimes i get caught up in my own daydreaming! You need to start feeling good about yourself. Start doing things that you enjoy doing, make plans for your future and work towards them, realise that you're an imperfect person but that so is everybody else, give yourself compliments and stop beating yourself up for mistakes that you may have made. This sounds cliche but the grass is always greener at the other side. People who seem perfect and popular have their own cross to carry and their own insecurities. Don't panic about your daydreaming, it really isn't a big deal. Just try and curb it a little bit and maybe try and start daydreaming about all the possible things you could do in the future! However, if you really feel very low and depressed you should consider talking to someone in person about how you feel. Best of luck.  

Answer 2

if u love doing it dont stop! its tottaly normal to daydream. u will probably grow out of it. i actually used to have a similar case that u have. i used to daydream that i was a witch and used to think i had special powers. lol. that was when i was like 8. but i still do daydream.

Answer 3

yes it is normal i do it every single day 24 7 that i even start talking out loud its weird but i love daydreaming every chane i get

Answer 4

Thats exactly what i used to do, still do sometimes, when i was upset or disapointed with my life i would imagine i was me but with a few improvements, most of my life consists of daydreaming, but i found as i grew up and got more secure in myself i started to leave this 'person' behind, i still daydream and fantasize, but hey thats me, my friends love my daydreamy nature and at least it means your creative and have a good imagination! When you start to feel more confident you'll leave this 'person' behind and accept yourself for who you are. Im an escapist too, but its just your way of dealing with things, some people get angry or violent, i escape into my own little world, im a dreamer, but hey i am pisces! Focus on the good points about yourself and your life, Im sure you have people that love and care about YOU. Not this imaginary person.

Answer 5

it's normal, it helps you cope with bad aspects of your own life.

if you wish to stop fantasizing, you just need to find reasons you like being you. try to put down on paper what you like about you and what you like about her. and then try to make something about your life to make it better, to make it improve.

Answer 6

actually, it's healthy to dream! it's is creativity your expanding!

and i think almost everyone wishes they were somebody else at times =) your fine, i promise!