How do I stop this girl from being such a poser?

Question

This girl at my school is an annoying poser, i miss her old stupid quiet self.

OK, last week she was really quiet and shy, she never talked to anyone and never smiled. She had long, curly, light brown hair and she wore all black.

But THIS week she came to school dressed EMO. She straighten her hair, cut it really choppy, dyed it black, got a completely different wardrobe, she looks like a different person! And now she smiles and laughs and is the most outgoing person in the school! Seriously!!

She changed her personality AND her style.

I called her a poser and she was like "How am I a poser?"

Me: "You changed your personality and your style!"

Her: "I can dress and act how ever I want, I don't care what you think" And she gave me this long "You only live life once do whatever you want" speech blah blah blah!!

Then I called her a poser and left

Seriously why cant people be themselves? How do I make her realize what a fool shes being?

Answer 1

You must be partially retarded for even asking this question.

Answer 2

well maybe she is like this maybe she wanted to change to become more populair. maybe she wanted more friends ( if she didn't have any friends. )

people can not be themselves becauae there are a lot of beautiful people in the world and they want to be part of them.

maybe you should just accept her for the way she now is.

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry.

If she's really being a fool, she'll realize that later.

Answer 4

People find themselves during middle school and high school. Maybe the person you saw before these changes wasnt really her. Like how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. Im not saying this a better change, who knows, but if shes happy with it then thats all that should matter. People change in life, you are just seeing the tip of the iceberg.

Answer 5

I no, people like that are kind of annoying. But maybe she is just trying to fit in and have friends, instead of staying the dark. Its not realy poser. Sorry, probably didnt help but anyway. Sooner or later, she will realise how foolish she is being.

Answer 6

Well she may not be the fool here.....she is allowed to live her life how she wants it (no matter how others see her choices)

And the speech she gave (where you marked " blah blah blah!!!) probably made a lot of sense.

Which brings me to a conclusion: Isn't everyone a 'proser'? Cause we all change.

If she is being a fool, she will realize it herself in time.

Answer 7

She needs to go through that stage...she´ll change many times until she´s happy with herself.

Answer 8

Why does it bother you?

That's the real question here?!!

Let her be! Geez high-school kids are so mean!

Answer 9

tbh it just sounds like she want so to be noticed, she obviously didnt realised that she was already noticed as her ordinary self by you,

Answer 10

Sounds like it's you that's having the problem- are you jealous?

"She smiles and laughs and is the most outgoing person"- so what's the problem? Why do you want her to change back? If you're her friend, shouldn't you be happy for her?

People in their teens change their personality, either gradually over time or in sudden shifts.

I know you won't like me saying this but it sounds like it's you that could do with a change of personality, on this one issue at least.

Answer 11

Why do you care what others do? People change all the time.  If she was depressed before and now seems to be happier, why do you have a problem with it?  You sound like a really immature little boy. Worry less about what others do and work on yourself.  You seem to need alot of it.

Answer 12

by not attacking her in the hall and calling her a poser.

just explain to her you liked her before and you miss her now.

she obvouusly thought she whouldn't make frineds as herself and is trying to be someone else.

if you liked her like as in a crush, tell her you liked her before and were gonna ask her out. then ask her out "but only if she's like she was b4"

if you don't really like her as a friend or girlfriend then leave her alone.

Answer 13

well first you have to understand that something drastic has happened in her life over night. maybe she didn't like the attention (or lack of) that she was getting as her previous self. if she is a friend of yours and you REALLY DO care for her, calling her names is not going to help. it's just going to feed that new image of hers. "see im different and everyone is uncomfortable with me" how about treating her like you always did. she probably gets loud when she's with her poser friends right. so let her be this way with them. but when she's with you just talk to her like you always did before the metamorphoses took place. accept her for who she is. you might find that she will open up with you and you will be able to get the real story as to why she changed her style. remember it's just a fad and she'll grow out of it with a little help from people that really care about her. in the mean time this is your opportunity to practice unconditional love. and this is something that will make YOU a better person in the long run.

Answer 14

"Why can't people be themselves?"

How do you know who she really is? Perhaps she didn't like being so quiet and shy, and discovered this new self in her. Sounds like you're in high school, and high school is all about self discovery. She should be able to experiment to find out who she really is.

I don't mean to put you down, but I don't think it's your place to tell her how she's supposed to look and act, telling her that she's not acting like herself. She knows best who she is and how she wants to be.

Answer 15

are you serious!!??!?1 let her be. Everyone needs a change here and there.  Let her goo thought a stage just like im sure your into. Thats what makes us grow as people. She will learn hers, and you will learn yours. Who are you to decide that she is a poser. I'm pretty sure your perfect as well then right? Wonder how you dress

Answer 16

IT SOUND TO ME THAT YOU AND YOUR FRIEND ARE IN EITHER HIGH SCHOOL OR JUNIOR HIGH.  THIS IS THE TIME WHEN TEENS ARE TRYING TO DISCOVER WHO THEY ARE.  THERE WILL BE MANY PHASES FOR SOME UNTIL THE FIND THEMSELVES.  IF SHE IS HAPPY AND NOT HURTING ANYONE ELSE, I FEEL YOU SHOULD STOP CALLING HER A POSER.  IT'S NOT BAD TO EXPLORE DIFFERENT TRENDS. IT'S A PART OF GROWING UP AND DISCOVERING WHO YOU ARE AND WHO YOUR NOT.

Answer 17

You wrote: "...How do I stop this girl from being such a poser?..."

You don't.

That's not your job.

-Stuart