How do I tactfully tell a co-worker to mind their own business?

Question

I am planning a career move from public education (9 years) to the federal government (more money). The person conducting my background investigation went by my place of employment asking lots of questions about my character. Now that the word is out that I may be leaving soon. I am being asked lots of personal questions by people that I do not know very well. I would like some recommendations on how to gracefully tell them that while I appreciate their concern; I am not confortable discussing my personal life with them. I work in a vicious rumor mill.

Answer 1

"while I appreciate (your) concern; I am not confortable discussing my personal life (at work)"

say exactly that, then smile and change the subject!

Answer 2

Be straight up.  "That is my business and I'm not going to answer any of your questions because frankly its none of your business"

Answer 3

When asked a personal question, from a some one you do not know very well, ask them why would they really care what you are doing.or why is it important to them to know.

Answer 4

Say mind your own buisness.

Answer 5

A simple "I'm not prepared to talk about this now, thanks for asking" tells them zip but acknowledges their question.  I wouldn't worry about being too tactful as ideally you'll get the new job and won't ever need to see them again.

Answer 6

try ignoring them or changing the subject.

Answer 7

Try the old trick of answering a question with a question.  I always say, "Can you help me understand why you need to know?"

Shuts 'em up every time.

Answer 8

Tell him to f&%$ off

Answer 9

"This is really a personal decision and I would rather not discuss it."  Say it with a smile, and make sure you immediately change the subject, and nobody can say anything bad about you because you've handled yourself with grace.

Answer 10

If they already know you are leaving, then the secret is out and there is no use denying it.  But your new job isn't confirmed yet, so you don't want to burn your bridges yet.

"I am looking into career options, but it's really too early to confirm anything yet.  Thanks for your concern.  How is YOUR day going?"

Answer 11

Just say WOW!!!! when you are asked somethign personal...they will get picture...or just lie.  make up somethign...if they ask when are you leaving...say when im 96 or why are you leaving...because it help ease my constipation.

Answer 12

since most people like to talk about themselves, you could always just answer a question wtih a question about them.

some folks just can't help it, once they start, pump them for as much useless information as possible.

If you work in a place where everything changes, soon enough they will find something (or someone) new to gossip about.

Answer 13

Good for you, for you seem you have already answered your own question: "I appreciate your concern, but I am not comfortable discussion my personal life with you".

That should get the message across in a polite but firm manner.