How do I talk to a boyfriend about discovering him on a social networking site?

Question

We were playing around with his computer last night and I happened to see a particular social networking site appear as one of his folders. I asked him if he had a page at this site. He said no.

Today, I decided to open my own to investigage and lo and behold, there it was. He was lying about his age on it. He also had a friend (this is a gal that we both know) as his "friend" listed there.

I really want to work this out with him. I hope I can. I don't know how to talk to him about this. I don't know what to say. Should I look for a counselor? Should I trust him? I know there's nothing wrong with social networking and many people do it. What I do have a problem with is his telling me that he didn't have a page here and that he's lying about his age as well on his page (that he doesn't have).

Is there any chance of working something like this out??? Can someone like this discuss exactly what is going on here? Is there any way to turn this around? I am a very loyal and devoted person. I really try to give people the benenfit of the doubt.

How can I calmly discuss this with the person I care about?

Answer 1

Was he using this social netweorking site to find friends or other women..

If its fo friends, what are you going to bring up, if you knew he was going and playing pool at a pool house to meet new ppl would you confront him about it? I would think probably not.

If he is using it to meet women, then you can confront him about it, but otherwise, let it go

Answer 2

"Look. It doesn't matter to me that you have a page, it's that you lied about the page. That makes me feel like you're hiding something. Help me understand."

Answer 3

just bring it up to him. say you know that he has a page and you want to know why he lied about his age. I don't think it's that big of a deal though.