How do I talk to him?

Question

I posted earlier and most people seem to think I'm seriously depressed. I'm pregnant and really, really regretting it. My level 2 was yesterday and instead of being this great moment when I realized that I loved and wanted my baby, I cried and cried and cried. Every time he moves I feel sick. Every time I try to think about the future I feel so hopeless and trapped.

Should I talk to my husband? If I do, how do I even have this conversation? He is so overwhelmed and stressed at work. Right now he's the only person in his group who isn't on vacation or maternity leave. Is telling him how unhappy I am selfish? If it really does magically all get better when the baby is born, should I keep it to myself and spare my husband the stress?

I'm just so tired of crying and being unhappy and faking it because everyone expects a pregnant woman to be glowing and overjoyed.

Answer 1

Try talking to one of the nurses at your obs office, or your ob if you are comfortable, i always found the nurses easier to talk to. did you get pregnant accidentally? pregnancy can make you nuts, try some online chat rooms with other pregnant women in the same situation, that could help as well. feel free to email me, if there is anything i can do. does he want to have a baby? hang in there.

cynthia

Answer 2

i would talk to someone. your doctor, would be best

good luck, hang in there

Answer 3

aww im sorry... You should talk to your husband... Stress isnt good for you or your child. It does get better, and you will get excited... I promise... He needs to know how you feel because you are important to him. Maybe he can help... just tell him straight up how you feel

Answer 4

Can I please reccommend that you speak to your dr about this if nobody else? Prenatal depression is a very real occurrence and it sounds as though you could have that. Or maybe you just didn't want to be pregnant, in which case why didn't you use protection? Pregnancy is hard work and especially in the earlier and later weeks the hormones can make everything unbearable. If you want to talk to your husband about it then by all means do, but it may not help anything and he may not take you seriously. By talking to your dr they can help you try and sort out whether it is hormones, depression or what and perhaps help you to deal a little better. I hope this helps some

Answer 5

hey there can we chat sometime and if you have myspace you can add me myspace.com/girl2mum

or msn/email/ [e-mail]

Answer 6

actually i think you should talk to your doctor and a therapist