How do I talk to my mom about this stuff?!

Question

last year my mom found out i had a bf and grounded me for 3 months and we broke up. now im 14 and have had plenty of bfs but im sick of having to hide it and lie about who i'll be with when we hang out. i cant talk about it with my sisters either so im kinda alone in it.and i want to be able to come to my mom when i get a new bf or am having boy troubles. i think she thinks im too young to actually have bfs but im not sure. im sure she knows im dating but doesnt say anything about it. i really wanna be able to talk to her about this stuff. adivce?

Answer 1

just be as honest as you can with your mom. tell her the truth and be willing to except the her decisions. if you guys have to break up it'll be ok, if he really loves you he'll wait.

personally we weren't allowed to date until 16      

Answer 2

I have the exact same issue... but, I'm 16.

The reason why your mom acts this way about your bfs is because she wants you to be safe and responsible too and thinks that she still has to watch over you.

Its just a motherly instinct.

The best way to approach this situation is to just simply say, "mom, I really think that I should be allowed to have a bf and I don't want to have to lie to you if I end up ina relationship. So can we talk about this?"

I plan on having a talk with my mom about my current bf tomorrow, So If you need any support just email me at [e-mail].

you're welcome!

(^_^)

Answer 3

That's really good you want to talk to her.  If you're not doing anything... 14 is not too young to date.  

Make her feel comfortable by telling her you aren't ready to do anything with boys yet.  You just hold hands and kiss and hangout/laugh together.  Maybe it's a social thing "who's going out with who" (it will make her feel better).  Tell her you want to be able to talk to her about this and ask her advice, but you feel like you cant.  She won't like that!  She will want you to be able to talk to her, and she may change her mind.  Meeting the boyfriend might help her out too.  Tell him to be very polite.  She is just worried.  She has a good reason to be worried - she cares what happens to you.  

Don't say "everyone else is dating", because that won't do anything for you.  Don't tell her you've had plenty of boyfriends.

Answer 4

don't you think you're too young to have a bf? but eh whatever, just tell your mom what she thinks about you having a bf, boys at your age, all they want is s*x, and unless you want it to, then im telling you your mom just wants to protect you from that

Answer 5

you should tell your mum that as much as you still respect her and her rules, you need to grow up eventually. Also, remind her that you are sensible and responsible and know right from wrong. The chances are, if you think she already knows, she wants to let you date boys but is afraid that if she says yes you will go like out of control

The key is to tell her you are sensible and mature. Avoid shouting/arguments about as that would just make her disapprove even more.

Hope that helps