My sons name is Jake. He is very polite, opens doors for older ladies, calm, and very funny. Other children tend to gravitate towards him, I don't blame them because he doesn't judge. He also can't seem to tell when he is being picked on either. The other day there were two boys literally throwing him to the ground, taking turns, and it was obvous they were picking, but, because they were laughing he was unable to reconize that he was in danger. I had no choice but to intervene. Which of course only caused him to feel embarressed. He is nine years old, and about to enter grade 4. How do I teach him to reconize when he should walk away? Sometimes when he is playing with his basketball, they come and invite themselves to play with him. He doesn't know how to tell them he doesn't want to play with them. I've tried many different approaches, including acting out different situations. He is such a sweetheart, and pretty much all the kids want to play with him. But he becomes intimidated when there is a large amount of kids near him. One time I watched a boy punch himin the arm repeatedly, and he didn't know what to do about it. The boy thought it was the greatest thing, he never hit back. I told him to hit back. I know that was wrong, and he did hit back, the boy stopped hitting his arm. And hasen't tried that game since. And Jake hasen't hit anyone either, he doesn't like violence at all. I have no idea how to teach him these things, without telling him to fight back. Now I hope those that respond have a basic understanding of exactly what PDD is. Jake is very lucky in that respect, he is able to express himself, and reconize some feelings in others. When he feels overwelmed he is able to take a timeout, and if he can't he introverts. Sometimes he will willingly playwith other kids. But more often then not, he prefers to sit inside and play his video games.
So basically the major problem he has is standing up for himself, and reconizing when someone is picking on him as appose to playing a painfull game. I have read books to him, and like I stated above, acted out situations, even watched movies, and pointed out threatening expresions, and body language. I've even shown him vids on youtube, and asked him to tell me what he thinks, he does fairly well, but when it comes to using this knowledge, he freezes. Any thoughts? And please no rude comments. PDD is a mild form of Autism.
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