How do I tell her...?

Question

My cousin needs some money for something and asked me mum to take a loan of for her and them she would pay her when the money is going out of her account. The bank said we would have to use our house. So basically if she doesn't pay the money, they will take away the house. My dad said no way but my mum always makes out that my dad is the baddie for not allowing it. She is always giving to people but not just to be nice and generous, she does it so other people can think or 'know' she is nice and she is a humble person. I don't think it is humble, I think it is stupidity. She always does stupid things at the families expense and its so annoying. Every argument is about money and it just leads back to her. There is a load more to this story but that's really long, how do I tell her in not rude way, that it isn't fair?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

sit down and have a family meeting and explain to her that what she is doing may be helping others but it isn't helping your family in time she will understand and realise what she is doing is wrong...don't worry your self just try and cope :]

Answer 2

Your Mom may just be a very giving and generous person, it might just be in her nature to help.  But this is asking for too much (in my opinion).  Yes, it would be nice help but not at the risk of losing your home.  Just try telling her that.  

Answer 3

Just say "mom, I think it is great that you are so caring and want to help, but I don't think this is the right way."  Offer some other things your mom could do to help support your cousin besides giving money. There is always conflict with family loans.  I would stay away as well, esp if it means risking your home.  Your dad is right!