How do I tell my BFF that she's got awful table manners?

Question

Now, I love this girl to death. We've known each other since we were 7 and we're basically joined at the hip. But anyway, she has the worst table manners! She chews with her mouth open, smacks her food around in her mouth, gulps her drink, and uses her wrists instead of a napkin. How do I tell her that she needs Table Manners 101 without hurting her?

Answer 1

First start by opening your mouth,then move your lips and vocal chords [that's the first step]  then sound out the words needed to tell her. She's gonna be hurt no matter what you say. get it over with. and if she feels like you're joined at the hip like you say, she'll get over it. If not then you'll know the way you feel about her ain't the way she feels about you.

Answer 2

Smile and tell her "Do me a favour?  Finish your bite and then talk because I can see your bite and it looks like puppies in a blender!"   Then wipe your mouth with your napkin and laugh.  

Before serving food say "oh, did I give you a napkin?"  That would be a clue for her to use it during dinner.

Answer 3

There is no way without seeming rude. You may have to accept this minor trivial flaw unless she's spitting food on you. I know someone like that, and we just don't broach the subject. Not worth hurting someone's feelings, right?

Answer 4

You just have to tell her and don't worry about the outcome.

Answer 5

You need to tell her BECAUSE she is so sensitive. Real life eventually is going to slap her silly pretty quickly unless she learns acceptable behavior. She is a good friend, just tell her privately what your concerns are. It will be difficult, but the reality is, if her lack of social skills does not improve, you will socially move on and she won't. You won't want to be seen sitting next to her with dribble coming off her chin in a fine restaurant, and neither will quality people that might be influential in your future. Eventually you will be seeing less and less of each other, and in ten years when someone asks whatever happened to her, you will say, "We just grew apart". it happens all of the time.  

Answer 6

Slap her upside the head

Answer 7

well if i was your friend i would really like it if you told me the truth. as much as it hurts you have to tell her or someday shell find out and be really angry with you for not telling her the truth in the first place

Answer 8

"Jesus Christ girl, stop eating and acting like a pig at the table! Show some decency!"

Answer 9

do not skip around the subject.  

if she is sensitive, then yes you should use some tact when talking to her....but do not sugar coat anything.