How do I tell my aunt in a nice way to stop telling me what to do?

Question

I am 38 years old and I am married with a family of my own. My aunt is 64. We have reconciled after 25 years apart. It is a long story. I don't talk to my mom because she was so manipulative, controlling, and I felt so smothered. My aunt means well and I know she loves me but I think she is trying to take my mom's place. I don't need another mother. I just get frustrated. I am bad at telling people how I feel. I am overweight because of my thyroid and because of Bipolar Medication. I don't eat a lot but I have a very sluggish metabolism. She must ask me every day what I have eaten and how my weight is. I am homeschooling my daughter and I don't want to tell her because I know she will be so annoying about it. We are going to Colorado in September to see my uncle who is her brother and I fear that she is going to baby me the whole week and embarrass me. I fear that it will get to a point where I won't even want to talk to her anymore. How can I tell her nicely to stop asking about my weight, to stop asking about my daughter's schooling, and in general to just stop babying me. Then she will tell me after 20 minutes of telling me what to do that she isn't trying to tell me what to do.

Answer 1

well you can try not telling her every detail of your life..but dont all of a sudden just stop talking to her..slowly start minimizing all the personal stuff you tell her..does her advice not work or do u just like doing things your way?  

Answer 2

You could try some diversion tactics - ask her about HER schooling days; did she ever have a weight issue;  if she has any of her own kids bring up questions about them - in other words, if she is so good at talking/giving opinions switch her attention from you back onto her.

When you reply to her questions about what you have eaten go into great detail - how big the apple was, how rosy red, which store you bought it from & what someone said while you were there ---- BORE HER TO DEATH! ! ! ! ! !

BORE HER WITH EVER SUBJECT YOU CAN THINK OF - and speak very s l o w l y while you do it!

Enjoy!

Regards, UK