How do I tell my childish, angry, miserable husband that I want a divorce?

Question

We have been married almost five years and he has complained every day that he is depressed and stressed out. It is obvious that he is miserable!! He actually thought I had left him one evening and said " I thought you had left me and I was fine with it.", so I think that says it all. When I have calmly said that I was thinking we should separate he pulls his hair and throws a yelling fit!! We have two young children that he continually ignores and sits in front of a computer for hours at a time. I am sick of spending my life with someone who regrets marring a woman with 3 children of my own and then was begged to have two more with him because he desperately wanted to father his own children. I guess it may just be too much for him and his is also bitter towards my eldest children, I am just so sad and overwhelmed to think I will once again be a single mommy, I feel cheated!

Answer 1

ok im 14 ive been through a divorce as a child listen to me ok

first tell him away from the kids dont be in the house get a babysiter for the kids or something plz

also if he might become verbaly or phsically violent try to be somewwere close to people

have u tried counselling it seems he has an attention problem u should really tell the kids wats going on though and listen idk if u r athiest but

i no everyone says this but

God is the answer wen nobody new how i felt i pray to god yes u cant hear him or feel him hugging u but listen hes there holding u in his arms and telling u itll be ok trust me plz wen u go through the divorce plz go to church idc were no matter how much the kids protest i no i do

P.S. plz tell me how everything went plz

Answer 2

Cut your losses. He is not going to change, and women who stay because they have already put so much in they feel the light at the end of the tunnel MUST be near, just waste more time.

Answer 3

Well it may be healthy for all parties including the kids that you end this madness.  Sounds to me that your husband may have issues he needs to speak to someone about.    

Answer 4

I do not know your financial situation, but if you can, ask him to leave.  Tell him there is no more need for him to be bitter.  Let him know child support from him will be necessary for his children (and the others if he legally adopted them).  You need to contact an attorney or legal aid and obtain a separation.  You may find during your separation that the two of you want to work it out.  But right now, it's painful for you, him and especially the children.  

Answer 5

Nothing says, "I want a divorce." like a constable serving the citation.  

Answer 6

i think its time to move on

it doesnt see mlike he cares

and its not fair to your children or yourself

you deserve better

he needs to figure out his issues...

Answer 7

omg!i think if i was u i would move out but ofcourse for that u need a job and apartment anyways as for me i wont let no men be bitter to my children i dont care if his not the father we are talking about precious kids and no way look if u love ur children please do something about it have u ever think how ur children feel ? who cares if ur asingle mommy what matters its that u tried ur best and God knows that ur doing the best for ur precious kids its better to live happy w/ur children than miserable dont think what about what people may say anyways people r never happy it is ur job has a good mother to make ur childrens life happy!!and dont feel cheated at all!!God will send u the right one for u!and ur children!God bless u and ur children!

Answer 8

punch him as hard as you can right in the face and walk out

that'll teach the ******!!

Answer 9

Take your kids, and go somewhere else and be happy. He will be "okay" with it ! Guys like that will make you HAPPY to be a single mom !

Answer 10

Leave him. Tell him you are tired of wasting your life away. Why spend the rest of your life wondering if there is someone else out there that will make you happy? Don't waste another minute with this man. You will find someone else that will love you and appreciate you and your kids.

Answer 11

Please leave, and take those darling kids with you. You don't need to put up with his hissy fits. If he was so "Fine" with you leaving, than he won't mind now. Just go. Pack what you can to get by, take half of the money out of the bank, and write him a note while he is at work. There is no reason for you to stay.

Answer 12

As quickly as possible.......you aren't being cheated out of anything by being married to him.  You are cheating yourself out of everything.  Unless you are a drama queen who enjoys this type of lfe, you need to get out.  Have an exit strategy.  Save extra money and have a place to go.  Enlist help of friends  if needed.  Get a plan in place and stick to it.  Remove yourself and the kids first.  Consult a lawyer ASAP to know what you can legally take for now.  Fight for the rest later, if needed.  Remove yourself and the kids and then tell him.  He may want out as much as you do.  

Answer 13

if i was you i would get out that is not good for the kids to see,

it does hurt them too to know that he is being an a ss,,

just tell him straight out,

he needs to see a doc to about his depression that is not a good thing either,

good luck to you,

its hard i know i am going thru it now,  

Answer 14

Just tell him . Tell him you and your children are leaving and you are filing for divorce and that your lawyer will be in contact with him .

If you feel that he may hurt you in any way don't say any thing just pack some things and leave . He'll figure it out eventually .

It's always hard for single moms to raise children with out the father but it's not impossible and in this case the children would most likely be better off with out him .

You will do fine . Just have faith in yourself .

Best of luck to you .

Answer 15

dont tell him, if you are going to do it, then just do it

Answer 16

I wouldn't even talk to him about it. I'm married to the same type of man with very similar issues and I don't plan on discussing it with him because he is so childish about things. Why even bother? I would just have him served with papers.