How do I tell my ex-husband that I am having another baby with my current husband?????

Question

Ok, Well me and my ex-husband haven't had the greatest relationship, but it is now a lot better and we are able to talk great. I am re-married and am expecting a baby. I have a 6 year old son with my ex-husband and I don't know how to tell him with out ruining the good communication we have had for my son. I know deep down he will be hurt. Maybe not, maybe it's jsut me??? Help

Answer 1

Of course you care about what your ex thinks.  You don't hate him.  Plus, he will be around for sometime to come.  

My sincere advice.  Ask him to coffee or lunch and tell him in person.  This way you both can have closure, and it may even help the healing process along a little for him.  

Answer 2

tell him straight out, and make sure its you that tells him and not your son  

Answer 3

who gives half a c**p how he feels you're remarried you don't have to report or answer to him.  If he doesn't like it or hurts his feeling tough luck buddy your his "ex-wife" NOT wife.

Answer 4

It seems like you are worried about what your ex thinks. You should only worry about the new life you are expecting and how you are going to handle that.  Who cares what he thinks.  If I was your new husband I would be concerned that you care so much about what he thinks.

Answer 5

It is probably just you. After all, it has been 6 years and he has moved on and accepted where things stand. You are flattering yourself too much or not giving him enough credit to have matured. Is it because he has no special woman in his life, that you know of? So what, just give him the facts and no more.  

Answer 6

just tell him.. he will be more upset if he hears it from someone else... he can't expect you to never have another kid.. I think he will be upset but it just didn't work between you two and he needs to realize you are and have moved on.

Answer 7

Just tell him.  It's not like you are going to be able to conceal the fact for any length of time.  Besides, you have re-married and unless your relationship with your ex is contingent upon you  (A) not having a sexual relationship with your present husband or (B) not acknowleding the fact that the two of you are divorced and have moved on and only have in common your young son, I don't know why your ex would have hurt feelings.

Answer 8

just tell him

it is the easiest and fastest way

do not beat around the bush

Answer 9

Well, i think that whether you tell him or not its well bound to become evident. You are starting a new family. Be happy and dont stress. Tell your ex. He knows that this would happen at some point.  

Answer 10

uuummmm why is THAT any of his business????  

Answer 11

Maybe I am a selfish b... but why in the world would you care what your EX think about your life now? You toss him off your life in the first place.

Answer 12

Just tell him. Next time you talk to him. Tell him "***** is going to be a big brother in a few months. We are expecting. I'm happy about it." He's a big boy. He can handle it. And if he can't then something may be sorely amiss, Miss.

Answer 13

You just need to come out and tell him.  He needs to be prepared to receive questions from your son.  It wouldn't be good at all for him to be blind sided by it.  Whether he's upset about it or not is irrelevant at this point.  He needs to know because your son will ask questions of both of you.

Answer 14

I'm assuming that you and your ex are good friends.  That should make it fairly easy to tell him your good news.  Like any friend, he SHOULD take it well and be happy for you.  If he doesn't, there is not much you can do about it.  You have moved on in your life and your ex must accept that and move on himself if he has not already.  His love for his son should never change.

I can only imagine how complicated things will be with 2 children from 2 different daddies.  For the kids sake I hope things work out peacefully for your extended family.

Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 15

Just tell him, you will have to at some point in time......I know what you mean, if he was giving you trouble b/c you remarried he prob. will when he finds out...but he will have to get over it b/c you have a son together...Good Luck