How do I tell my (ex)boyfriend that it's over?

Question

My boyfriend and I just broke up a little over a week ago. First, I broke up with him because he is very controlling and overprotective, and after a year he still cannot trust me to hang around with guy friends. We got back together the next day because he swore he would change. A few days later, HE broke up with ME because he felt he could no longer deal with me hanging out with other guys. I thought this was the end, but every day since he has been bugging me to get back together. I really care about him but I cannot be with someone so controlling. He claims he can change (again) but I honestly don't even want to give it a shot, as terrible as that sounds. We've reached the end of our rope. I've told him this but he will not listen. I tell him to give me space and he leaves me poems at my door, begging me to take him back. He really loves me and it makes me feel terrible that I am treating him this way but he will not take no for an answer! He has mentioned to me a few times that he wants to kill himself. This makes me feel so guilty because I know it's all because of me, and if I were to take him back... things would be fine. But I can't take him back just because it will make him happy.

I really don't know what to do. He doesn't really have anyone to talk to besides me, so it's really hard for him to cope. How do I make him understand that it's over?

Answer 1

dont feel gulity about it,im sure he wont do it to himself,he just making it up just to get you back of his life..tell him in nice way::like this..you know what this relationship is not working anymore,i dont like the fact that your so controlling and you dont trust me.dont think about yourself,think about what i feel too,if im still happy with you..you always promise me to change but i didnt see anything that you really change..if you really love me,let me go.it hurt me that it ends in this way but im really sorry.i know you can find someone out there waiting for your love..

tell him what you really feel about your relationship.if hes really a MAN he will accept it.

Answer 2

You are just going to have to be honest with him.  Don't take his calls, and give him a break from you.

In regards to him wanting to kill himself, or just his overall happiness, you shouldn't be in a relationship where you are unhappy.

No matter what he does, or say, it's not longer your concern.  I'm sure you love him, care about him, etc. but anyone who threatens to kill himself is a) doing it for attention b) so you will stay in a relationship.  Tell him or try to get him some professional help but don't let him drag you back into a relationship.

You don't need that and whatever happens, isn't your fault.  Your happiness should come first, not his.

Answer 3

walk up to him and say its over

Answer 4

well if hes threatening to kill himself tell him to go see a doctor   but on the other hand.. if your in a relationship, i do not feel you should be hanging around guys... guys really only want one thing hahaha.

would you like your boyfriend to hang around girls?? i can see  how he gets jealous, maybe you need to change too.. stop hanging around other guys so much if u have a boyfriend