How do I tell my fiancé I don't want to have a Jewish wedding?

Question

She's studying Judaism, about time we get married she is going to jewish, she said she wants to have a jewish wedding but I don't like how they do their wedding ceremonies, I'm a methodist, I want to do it the old fashion way. How do I tell her?

Answer 1

Oh my heavens. You resent your fiance' because of her religion. Your marriage is DOOMED! The way "they" do their wedding ceremonies is far older fashioned than a Methodist wedding. I am not saying you should do it either way. But you should say something like "I know you want to have a Jewish wedding ceremony but I don't like how they do their ceremonies and want to have a Methodist ceremony instead. Besides, since I won't be Jewish at the time that would be conflicting with a traditional Jewish ceremony with a Jewish woman only marrying a Jewish man." That will get your conversation started, and then you can work things out from there.

You need to realize that holding this inside you will cause far more trouble for you than just getting it out there for an open discussion.

Answer 2

JUST TELL HER GET TOGETHER AND SAY IT.

Answer 3

Grow a pair and tell her how its going to be!

Answer 4

She is going to learn that most Rabbi's won't even marry a mixed couple.  Now I take it that you want a civil marriage.  You certainly would not want to have a Christian wedding.  If her bothers you, yours would bother her.   By the way, if she converts, all of your children will be Jewish.  Ready for that?