How do I tell my friend that I have romantic feelings for her?

Question

I have this friend that I really like. I've had feelings for her for a while. We flirt and talk almost everyday. She just got out of a pretty serious relationship. I've talked to her and she says she's not ready to date again. I understand this and am willing to wait for her, I just don't want her to get away without me at least telling her how I feel. Any advice on how i should tell her.

Answer 1

*sniff* hey Smitty its Jenna...

Hm...

Well that conversation can go several ways;

1. She accepts your love, and ya'll become inseperable.

2. She agrees but is still not quite ready.

3. The classic "I Love you but im not in love with you" speech.

Lets Role Play for a Second,

If I were her and today was that day, I would like it if you took me into a corner and explained that you understood that I needed time but you also explain your feelings. If I was to Accept, I would apreciate a hug or a very soft kiss on the cheek.

If I were to refuse, I Would want you to say that you understand, but that you'll always be there ready to catch me or to hold my hand when I need you most, then another hug...

Wow, that was deep...LOOK  WHAT s*x DID TO ME!!!!!!

*sniff* I need a hug now...

Answer 2

just be with her.Let her talk and let out things that are on her mind.Be a good listener.Be really sweet to her.And when she sees that you aren't forcing anything on her. Then she will take interest in you.we like it when guys give us some space .It makes us feel that it is our decision not someone who is deciding it for us.I am sure by spending time with her you will be able to show her how special of a person you are.

Answer 3

Hello, How are you this fine day...Well sweet one, lets see....In my opinion, the best way you can show how much you care for a person, is by being there for her...especially in her time of need...Give her a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to her problems....Her heart needs time to mend and you do not want to push the issue....just give it a little more time and do not let it become a rebound...be there for her cause right now she will need that...she will realize how much you care for her don't worry about that....then when the right time comes and you will know it...just open up to her..and let her know...hugs to you and best of luck...;0)

Answer 4

Can you keep going as friends for a while before you make a move, mainly because of her just getting out of a relationship. And you have talked to her so you know that is whats going on. She might need some more time. I would say to build up your relationship by talking more and inviting her places, and making her feel good about herself.

I am sure there will be a time when she is ready, just ask her at the right time.  

Answer 5

When my boyfriend and I broke up I had two guys who were interested in me who I was friends with. My boyfriend and I had been together for just over two years when we broke up and I started talking to the other guys everyday.

I told them the same thing that she told you. Just tell her something like this,

"I know you're going through a lot and that you don't want to date anyone for a long time, but I just want you to know that I really care about you and I have had feelings for you for a while now. I don't know what you think about that, but I just wanted you to know that. I was just wondering if you would ever see me as more than a friend."

The guys I talked to basically said that. But just keep in mind the possibility that she might not want to ruin the friendship, or she just can't bear to be with anyone right now. Just be there for her and let her know that you're there for her. My boyfriend and I got back together about a month ago and I cut off talking to the other guys, both were pretty angry that I got back together with him. Just do what feels right for you.  

Answer 6

ask her out on a date. don't exactly tell her it's a "date- date" orelse she'll sense that maybe you're going to try and force her in to a relationship with you. so just say you want to take her out on a friendship-kinda thing dinner. then tell her how you feel and assure her that you are ready to wait. maybe she will understand and start having a liking for you.

Answer 7

That happen to me. Though I'm the girl in your problem. I went to Spain on holidays and I meet a guy from my city and I had just left an relationship that ended pretty bad. He have always been really good friends!! I like him so much.

When he got back he never talked to me again, in the last day he seemed weird.He block my msn and he didn't answer my text messages and sometime later I gave up on him. He had never spoken to me until seven months later he asked me for a coffee and in the end he kissed me.

I never got to know why until last week we went for a coffee (again) and he told me he couldn't get my out of his head for 8 months.

The thing his, I liked him and if he had been honest with me in the begining he could have been more than friends. Probably I wouldn't feel like try to make him cheat his gf (he moved on) or my my bf (I moved on too) and now I can't stop thinking of him. What can I do ? I don't wanna ruin anyone's life.

Tell her the truth. Do what you thinks is best. Listen to yourself.

Answer 8

best thing to do is tell her how u feel and be very honest with her..sit her down and tell her..wat u got to lose???nada..so go for it.its a peice of cake

Answer 9

ask her out and tell her how u feel

Answer 10

If I were her, I'd be really, really flattered to know that someone cared about me like that... but if she says she's not ready to date, believe her.  For now, be friends with her, be supportive, and drop the occasional hint about the way she looks or something like that, so that she knows you're interested in her as more than a friend.

When the topic comes up on its own (and if it's on your mind, it probably will), then tell her.  As long as you're genuine, there's not much else a girl can ask for :D

Answer 11

please just wait. trust me, you got first dibs when she IS ready to date, as long as she see how sweet you've been on respecting her wishes and just being there for her as a friend. whatever you do dont pressure her now, that will ruin all of your chances. she'll think your trying to geher while she's vulnerable. your patience will pay off in time  

Answer 12

just tell her how you feel but let her know that you also understand what she's feeling right now and be there for her. if you love her you'll wait and she will see that. let her come to you, don't push it. especially since she's hurting. just be a good friend but i would definitely tell her how you feel. just let her see that you aren't trying to push her into another relationship so soon.

Answer 13

i think that you should tell her how you feel, yet also remind her that you will wait til she is ready to date again.

that way she will noe how u feel, and also noe dat she will always have you there next to her.  just keep telling her in someway that you will always be there w/o being a lil annoying.

good luck[=

Answer 14

ask her how shes dealing with the break up and if shes is sad or upset tell her u care about her and you don't like to see her upset.and that you would never do something like that to her.

but ifs shes fine,

be a little nicer to her smile at her flirt w/her and drop some hints and if she is ready to date again she will hint back. if she hints back take a chance and ask her out.

if she seems interested but doesn't hint back give her time to get over what has happened.

and if she is freaked out and doesn't do anything back. well idk what to

tell you.lol.

Answer 15

Ahh, you're kinda like Jim from the Office!! I don't really know but it seems sweet

Answer 16

How long ago did they break up, and how long have you two been "talking" and "flirting"?  Maybe she's just flirting because it makes her feel better after a breakup.  If you've been flirting even before her breakup, you might want to ask yourself if that's the kind of girl you want to be with.  

Honestly, (and this is just my opionion), I don't think she's interested.  Girls will usually say that they're not ready to date when they are not interested in a guy.  That's sort of your hint.  If she had any interest in you, she wouldn't want you to get away either.

You can tell her how you feel if you want but I don't think it will  make a difference.  You can maybe tell her in a letter.

Answer 17

ok.

i think you should definitely tell her how you feel because then at least you've told her before she "moved on" from you. but follow that by letting her know that you accept the position that shes in and you don't expect anything to happen at the moment.

let her know that you really care about her but you understand how she feels and what she wants to do will be fine with you.

i think you'll find that if you tell her her feelings for you may come out, and it might spark something inside of her that shdidn'tnt even know about. thats what happened to me last time a guy told me he like me. it was so sweet and we are still together now.

good luck!

Answer 18

Tell her to listen to you and it really meant alot to you. show her you feeling by buying roses and flowers and give it to her with a small note on it. Saying you really care about her. It's an indirect way to approach a girl without spilling the whole glass down.

Answer 19

DO NOT TELL HER

Like someone said ur in her friend zone u tell her Ull be in another zone not a good one

Trust me i Know...Friends and dating is a dangerous Subject  

Answer 20

Dont ask her out yet. But tell her how you feel, and chances are she will pour all of her emotions to you and focus on you, and she might even fall for you

Answer 21

just stand by her and let her know that ull always be there.. im not too sure about telling her ur feelings yet tho... let her develop some for u before u spring onto her that you wanna be with her. If she wants some time and you really like her, give her some time. She wont go away, i promise. :)

Answer 22

Your in the 'Friendzone'...a relationship beyond this may not be possible. Keep her a friend, but don't waste your time--look for other women. If she's interested, she'll make a move towards you. Play to win if you're going to play at all.

Answer 23

hmm well i am only 13 but what i would do is

i would say

hay. i have  feelings for you and if she does she will say back .

because if my guy friend liked me even if i didnt like him i would want him to tel me!

hope i helped! :D sorry if i didnt

Answer 24

idk but my best guy friend ever just told me that he likes me & now everytime we talk tak or see each other its kind of okward. but i think that no matter what you should just tell her how you feel because  after he told me he liked me; i kinda strted gettin feeling for him too & maybe the same will hapen for you!

i wish you lots of luck & hope this helped! =]  

Answer 25

i would say wait a lil while usally when she says that she means it jus wait bout a week or so then be like well do u think we could go out sometime  

Answer 26

Tell her, let her know... :) If she returns your feeling, then of course, it's good. If not, it just mean that you 2 are not fated to be together. :)

Casual talks? Hinting around helps... but then again, maybe you can just go out with her alone and spend some time with her... :) She's a girl and she's sensitive to all these though. :) So yeah. Actions speak louder than words~

all the best

Answer 27

talk to her, and tell her that you know shes not ready to date yet, but if she ever wanted to, would she like to go out with you?, it will let her know that you will give her time and space, but also to let her know you still care. if  your worried about telling her in the first place that you like her, you really just need to go for it, you only live once.. and who knows, maybe she does like you, and if she denies you, just say, okay, nothing worth being all mopey about, can we still be friends?

hope i helped :) (L)

Answer 28

Say this, " Her name I know its not the right time to be telling yu this but I (tell her how you feel about her) but its okay I can always wait until your ready " (giggles) when your talking gently hold her hand and give her the sad look.

Hope I can Help Good luck

Angelikka

Answer 29

just kiss her lol, see what she does

Answer 30

if shes not ready to date, then dont go and ask her out obviously.

ask to meet her in person, and tell her that you have very strong feelings for her, and that you are willing to wait. tell her that you want to be there for her always.

hold her in your arms, a GIANT teddy bear hug, because if you are very romantic when you tell her, she might be crying. not because she is mad that you had to tell her, but maybe because she has always felt the same way.

you will find the right time to tell her

Answer 31

Just come straight out and tell her......Invite her over and yall sit and have a serious conversation. Just you and her with no interferences.