How do I tell my friend to STOP!!!?

Question

OK i have a friend, she isnt my best friend, but we do hang out a lot and i see her daily.

A few months ago she was great, she wasnt the best driver but that was about it. then a couple months ago she started hanging out with her older brothers friends and started drinking, i didnt care much because a ton of kids at my school drink and i just kinda ignore it, but then she started drinking more and drove home drunk, this really pissed me off because i dont want her to hurt herself or any innocent people, now she is smoking pot and has recently started smoking cigarettes, i HATE ppl who smoke anything so i need a way to tell her how much of an *** she is being. she has gotten stupider in general and doesnt take anything seriously anymore so i feel she wont listen to me, are there any ideas on how i can snap her out of it? i dont really want to be her friend anymore, but i feel i have to protecter from her other "friends" and from getting worse I NEED HELP!!

Answer 1

Tell her that to stop smoking and drinking, and tell her that's bad for her. She could have disease or cancer.

Answer 2

babes your friend most likely has low self esteem and is enjoying the company of the men. but you should say something to her but dont call her and *** even tho this subject fustrates you. she may not want to her it and might even cuss you out. nobody likes to be told they are messin up especially when they know it.  it embarrasing so in tellin her how you feel  about her harmin herself or others be respectful and relay that its coming out of love. she will listen or maybe writer her a letter and let her read it. cause when ppl read things they get to re read and think about it at their own pace. pray for her also. let her know she is worth more. and the guys arent that great if in the little time they hang with her they manage to change her whole demeanor and inflicy bad habits :(

Answer 3

Usually when someone is doing that type of stuff it can be because they dont respect themselves or they want other people to respect them. you want her to take offense, so be sensitive to how she may be feeling. Someone who is throwing everything away is obviously not feeling to highly of themselves and you should tell her that shes more than just drugs are getting messed up. Tell her really what it's doing and if she doesnt listen tell her that youre just gonna have to walk, if you really realllly cared youd still stay by her and maybe even tell a counselor or her parents but you dont have to do that..shell snap out of it sooner or later. just dont do this big thing telling her shes an *** because what's going on is inside of her not outside of her.

Answer 4

hmm have a serious talk with her and tell her what you think and that she doesn't have to listen to you but you just wanna let her know. make her feel guilty. hahah. :P it might work .

Answer 5

You can't control her but if she ever does anything around you that you don't like, you don't have to stay silent about it. If you really care about her well being so much, it seems that she would need to know that now. Whatever you do control your anger as this can make a friend into an enemy.

hope this helps, good luck!