How do I tell my little girl about the things she's asking?

Question

I have a 4 year old little girl(yes, I was pragnent when I was 15) and she keeps saying, "mommy, how do u have babies" I just say "you order them out of the cataloge" but she dosn't believe me.She's also potty trained and sometimes she goes through my drawers and pulls out my tampons and pads and ask's me what they are. I tell her she's to young to know and then she starts crying.I'm not going to tell her about periods or s*x until she's like...11. What do I do?

Answer 1

why would u put on ur profile that ur 18 with a 3 month old SON and a boyfriend/husband that works in a tuxedo, what r u 12? come on now u put that in ur profile and then u ask about ur 4 yr old 'daughter'. why are u wasting peoples time>?

Answer 2

My 4yo son knows about s*x. I had to have a chat with him about it, when he witnessed cows mounting.

I pretty much sugar coated it and told him as much as a 4yo needs to know. He knows that it's something animals do to have babies, and people do when they love their partner.

I don't believe in hiding things from any of my kids, but I do believe in sugar coating. Mine know about tampons, and that Mummy's body goes threw a change once a month. I just told them the bad Mummy bits come out, and I need them to catch them. They asked about if they needed them, and I told them little boys were perfect the way they are. You could say little girls use them when they become older girls.

Answer 3

Well tell her the truth about the pads and tampons. My girls 7 & 9 have known about that for years. If they know about it even at a young age it will not be as scary when they start themselves. And you can explain periods etc. without going into s*x.

I told them a woman is born with all her eggs (which is true) but you cannot get pregnant until you start your period which is your eggs coming out if you do not have a baby and it happens monthly. When you decide you want a baby it starts growing inside of you and during that time you do not have a period, and then when the time is right it comes out your v****a. Your body produces a special hormone to make your v****a open up enough to get the baby out.

Dont make up stories about catalogs and storks. Give her an honest answer without every detail.

Answer 4

Talking ot her when she is 11 is not going to be very helpful. She will probably learn it all from her friends if you wait too long.

Be honest with her and she wont have to keep asking. Just dont tell her all of the details.  

Answer 5

This is what I told my daughter at 4.  "Every month, a woman's body gets ready to carry a baby.  If a baby doesn't end up in her tummy, then she'll bleed for a few days every month.  Once there's a baby in her tummy, she doesn't bleed every month."  As for how the baby gets in the tummy, they know that the baby's mommy and daddy lay naked together and when that happens the woman can become pregnant.

If you homeschooled and no television and not around anyone else and you didn't tell her anything, there's a chance she'd get to 11 without knowing anything about periods and s*x.  But, I'm assuming you probably watch TV and she's probably going to school in the next couple years.  She will have heard about those things before then.  It's far better that she hears it first from you rather than from another child who will probably have inaccurate information and won't attach any moral lessons along with it.

Answer 6

You should tell her that the tsm. are for blood because of pe. but don't tell her about s*x. As far as tell her where baby's come from you sould tell her the same thing that i tell all 5 of my kids and 1 of them is 4. I tell them that God makes them and sends them to my belly. It worked for me mabey it will work for you. But i would tell her about the baby part first, before telling about blood and what the tam. are for. Mabey after you tell her about the baby part she won't ask anymore about the tam. 's . Good luck with this.................

Answer 7

for one...no one even said anything about your age..don't be so defensive.

and 2. Tell her that babies come from a special place, and that you will let her know when she's a little older.

THe pads and tampons...just tell her that mommys have "special" days of the months, and she'll have them soon also.  

Answer 8

I think you could explain tampons and pads without going into s*x/reproduction.  What's so bad about explaining a woman's cycle?

As for where baby's come from, why don't you use the usual "stork" story.  I bet there are even books on it.

And by the way, I think informing your children about life is not what gets them in trouble (i.e, getting pregnant or having s*x too young).  It's when they are uninformed that they tend to get in trouble.

Answer 9

I don't understand how your age when pregnant matters here. Why bring that up?

Lying to your kid is a bad idea. Tell her only the truth she needs to know that's age appropriate (I would hope at 4 she's potty trained!).

Tell her the tampons are for big girls, to help keep them clean. Tell her babies are made when a mommy and a daddy fall in love and give each other a special hug. Or, tell her how it happened to you. Wait, no don't.

Not telling them the truth in bits from little on up, like periods and s*x at 11-is a good way to be grandma at 30. 11 yr olds today think they are grown ups and 12 yr olds are getting knocked up.

Teach her responsibilty and pride, that will save her from going down this road her self in 10 years.

Answer 10

i told my daughter that pads are mommys dypers and she believed it  

Answer 11

No offense, but this site is for people looking for real help.  Your profile says you have a 3 month old son, a boyfriend, and a husband?  And under one of your questions, you say your 13.  When is school back in session for you?  Go read a book, or practice telling lies.

Answer 12

You can still tell, just not so graphic. And you need to tell her before she's eleven as they have lessons in school when they are around nine.

Say to her 'Babies happen when a man and a lady love each other very much. You are what happened because I loved your Daddy, and I'm always glad I had you.' Then the hole tampon thing, just explain that you need them because your a women, and when she's a women she'll get them to.

Good luck.

Answer 13

I have two daughters 9 and 5 and am pregnant w/ a boy. My girls know about tampons and pads b/c when I was on my period (as all kids do) they walked in and got scared that mommy had to go to the hosp cause I was bleeding and I simply just told them I was ok and when you have babies your private sometimes bleeds so don't have babies. They said ok and that was it. As far as where do babies come from I told them that at night when a mommy is sleep God comes and opens your belly button and puts a tiny baby in your stomach and as a mommy you have to take care of the baby for it to grow..Believe of not my 9 believes it

My mom always told me kids dont take things as serious as we do and usually the simplest answers work.

Answer 14

you can always explain her about periods, telling her that is something normal on girls, that we all have it on a certain time and goes away on a certain time, is not as bad as talking about s*x, she might stop asking and crying after u tell her that.