How do I tell my mom ive been raped?

Question

I was "date raped" about 3 months ago, and wish to tell my mom about it. But i dont know how to break the news to her. What do i do?

Answer 1

There is no easy way to tell your mum what has happened to you. You just need to find the right moment, sit down and tell her. I wish you all the luck in the world and I am sorry to hear about what you have been through, stay strong, the support from your mum will help you loads.

Answer 2

being raped is a very seriouse matter.  Just spit it out so you can be helped and have sum one on your sid.  I'm sorry hun.  be carful and hopully is was pretected s*x.

Answer 3

Im sorry that you were raped.

Take your mother aside somewhere and sit down with her.  Let her know that you want to talk with her in private about something that is serious.  Then discuss the date, who you went with and go into details about it.

If you want to press charges on the case, let her know then and there.  If not, also let her know and the reasons why you dont.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Tell her right now, and let her know you are a victim,...don't be afraid,. It is too bad you didn't tell her the night it happened, but one thing that happens to people that are raped, is that they for some reason, fear that others will blame them for what happened...go to mom, tell her, and if you have to, talk to a police officer...I don't know if you can do anything about this now, but you might keep him from doing it to someone else...and your mom needs to know, so she can comfort you and help you, that is what mom;s are for sweetie

Answer 5

good to have told , but as you fall back on the parents in adversity you should listen to their sane voice in life ,

Answer 6

tell her asap!!!!!for the next girl he tries this on. It is a problem he has that he has now made a problem for you. you need to tell so that girls can put a stop to this.  Mothers need to teach there boys no means no

good luck and this will be ok.

Answer 7

if you were date raped i doubt it was protected s*x, so you should erally tell her. you are now vulnerable to sexual transmited diseases which is very serious, along with the depression from being raped. tell your mom. i know how hard it its, i remember telling my mom i was sexually abused as well as a kid by my cousin, but after that my  mother and i have never been closer. please do tell her and get the help you need, and put that son of a b*tch in prison where he belongs :)

One word of advice though. if you had s*x with him voluntarily, and are just using this as a way to get back at the person for not wanting to date you anymore or something like that. you should seriously stop. now that im thinking about it, unless he drugged you without you knowing im pretty sure you had consentual s*x with him and now jus awnt to get back to him

Answer 8

you just have to sit her down and tell her.

it's important that you do... you need to be tested for STD's and pregnancy.

i would press charges. it might be hard since you don't know his last name...

i'm sorry you were raped. i've been there and i know how it feels. good luck to you!

Answer 9

If you have been carrying this burden for three months without telling anyone my heart goes out to you. I too am sorry you were attacked. Assuming you aren't pregnant you must find out if you have contracted an STD. Get to a doctor as soon as possible. You may not be the first girl this man has attacked. There are plenty of free womens' clinics that will test you but some states force these clinics to inform your parents. Don't assume anything about how your mother will take this news. She may surprise you. You don't say how old you are or whether you are living at home, at college or alone. There may be no good reason to tell her at all depending on your answers to those questions. If you are under 18, living at home and the man is known to your family I would advise you to talk to a school counselor first or a clergyperson. A female would be my preference. It may become an issue that you did not report this assault at the time it happened and you will need more objective support and advice than any of us can give you. But the first issue is your physical, mental and spiritual health. The second is the safety of other women this man will date. And the third is your mother. God bless you!